6. Use of the atomic bomb in warfare. M S L N
7. Regular attendance of religious services. M S L N
8. The way or place to spend your vacation. M S L N
9. Stricter censorship of books and magazines. M S L N
10. Learning to dance, ski, skate, etc. M S L N
11. Punctuality on a job or regular class attendance. M S L N
12. Getting better grades at school or working for a
promotion. M S L N
13. The cost of living. M S L N
14. Life after death. M S L N
15. Automobile accidents caused by reckless driving. M S L N
TRAIT X (Family Background)
Be absolutely truthful in taking this test; try to be objective and honest
with yourself. Answer Yes or No if possible; if you can't decide Yes or
No, then circle the question mark.
1. Were your own parents quite happily married? YES ? NO
2. Did you have a happy childhood? YES ? NO
3. Did you have a great deal of love and affection
for your mother? YES ? NO
4. Did you have a great deal of love and affection
for your father? YES ? NO
5. Did you get along well with your mother with-
out any serious conflict? YES ? NO
6. Did you get along well with your father without
any serious conflict? YES ? NO
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7. Was your home discipline firm but not harsh? YES ? NO
8. Was the punishment that you received both mild
and infrequent? YES ? NO
9. Is your present attitude toward sex free from dis-
gust or aversion ? YES ? NO
10. Was at least one of your parents easy to talk to,
and frank, about matters of sex? YES ? NO
11. Were you reared in either the country, a small
town, or the suburbs of a city? YES ? NO
12. Do you go to church three or four times (or
more) every month? YES ? NO
13. Are you regularly employed? YES ? NO
14. Do you have many friends of your own sex? YES ? NO
15. Do you belong to three or more social organiza-
tions? YES ? NO
Directions for Scoring Your Tests
Do not read these scoring directions until after you have taken
the tests. When you have marked the tests according to the direc-
tions, then you are ready to score them. Because all the tests are
not scored in the same way, be sure you score them very carefully.
After having done so, then turn to the further directions, some of
which apply to a man, some of which apply to a girl.
TEST FOR TRAIT I. For each item that you have marked M, give
yourself three points; for each one that you marked S, give your-
self two points; for each item that you marked L, give yourself one
point. Items marked N are counted zero. Then add these numbers
up for your total score on Trait I. For example, if you marked four
of the fifteen items M, that would give you twelve points; let us
say you also marked five items S, that would be five times two
points, or ten more points; if you marked three items L, that would
be another three points. That would leave three items that you
marked N for which you get no credit. Your total score on Trait I
would then be 12 + 10 + 3 = 25 points.
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TEST FOR TRAIT II. For each A you marked, you get two points and
for each R you get one point. Items that you answered D are
counted zero. Add these up for your total score.
TEST ON TRAIT III. The scoring is reversed on this test from that
used for Trait I. On Trait III, M is scored zero, each S gets credit of
one point, each L gets credit of two points, and each N gets credit
of three points.
TEST ON TRAIT IV. You marked the items on this test either, T, D,
or F. Those you marked T are scored zero. For each D answer you
get one point, and for each F answer you get two points.
TEST ON TRAIT V. Each marked M gets zero credit, each S gets one
point, each L gets two points, and each N gets three points.
TEST ON TRAIT VI. Each M gets three points, each S gets two points,
each L gets one point, and N receives no credit.
TEST ON TRAIT VII. This is the test in which four words come after
each word in capitals. The first of the four words gets three points
if circled, the second gets two points, the third word gets one point,
and the last word receives no credit. Take the word PAST. If you
marked it yesterday, or the word in the first column, you get three
points; if forget is circled instead you would get two points. If you
marked it hidden, you get no credit for that word. Add all your
points for your total score.
TEST ON TRAIT VIII. The items in this test were marked S, P, or D.
Items marked S get no credit. For each item marked P, give your-
self one point credit; for each item marked D, give yourself two
points credit.
TEST ON TRAIT IX. Each M gets three points; each S, two points;
each L, one point, each N gets no credit.
TEST ON TRAIT X. In this test you were asked to mark your answers
either Yes, ?, or No. For each Yes f give yourself ten points; for each
question mark, credit yourself with five points. You receive no
credit for any question that you answered No.
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If you have followed carefully the directions that have been given
you, you now have ten separate raw scores, one for each of the ten
traits on which you were tested. We are now ready to see what these
scores mean. Using the little outline below, put down your scores.
YOUR RAW SCORE
TRAIT i TRAIT vi
TRAIT n TRAIT vn
TRAIT in TRAIT vm
TRAIT iv TRAIT ix
TRAIT v TRAIT x
NOW FIND YOUR ADJUSTED SCORE
If you are a man If you are a woman
TRAIT I (Repeat raw score) (Repeat raw score)
TRAIT n (Repeat raw score) _.. (Repeat raw score)
TRAIT in (Double raw score) _.. (Repeat raw score)
TRAIT iv (Double raw score) (Multiply raw score
by 4)
TRAIT v (Repeat raw score) (Double raw score)
TRAIT vi (Repeat raw score) _.. (Repeat raw score)
TRAIT vn (Double raw score) _.. (Repeat raw score)
TRAIT vm (Repeat raw score) _.. (Repeat raw score)
TRAIT ix (Repeat raw score) (Double raw score)
TRAIT x (Repeat raw score) .. (Repeat raw score)
Total Score (add the 10 scores) Total Score
Thus, if you were a man you repeated all of your original "raw"
scores except in traits III, IV, and VII where you doubled the raw
score. For example if your raw score on III was twenty-eight your
adjusted score should be fifty-six. Likewise if :you were a girl you
repeated your raw scores in all but IV, V, and IX. You quadrupled
the score on IV and doubled each of the other two.
Interpretation of Your Final Adjusted .Scores
TRAIT I. If your score was thirty or above you would seem to be a
very sociable person, quite fond of the company of others, one who
has very broad interests, and who will probably enjoy talking things
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over with your mate. A score of twenty-five is about average. If your
score is twenty or less, you are probably cautious about making
friends, have rather specialized interests, and are not very talkative
unless the topic is quite interesting to you. It may be wise, if you
have a low score, to try to develop more friends, have more of a
social life, and to get out of your shell.
TRAIT II. If your score was fifteen or more you are probably a con-
forming person, agreeable and poised. You tend to be cooperative
even though you are positive and firm when your mind is made up.
A score of eleven is average. If your score was eight or less, you
may be bullheaded, domineering, and argumentative. It may be
wise, if you have a low score, to try to remember that the other
person has a right to his own opinion and that you may lose friends
and make enemies unless you act more diplomatically.
TRAIT III. If your score was fifty-six or more if a man, or twenty-
eight or more if a girl, you are probably a tranquil person who is
not easily irritated or annoyed. You rarely "fly off the handle" or
become impatient; this is particularly important if you are a man.
A score of forty-six for a man or twenty-three for a girl is typical or
average. If your score is thirty-six or less if a man or eighteen or less
if a girl, you are probably an irritable person who is easily annoyed.
You may lose your temper too easily and stay peeved too long. You
should make an effort to control your temper and to think before
you speak, especially when you are annoyed or provoked.
TRAIT IV. If your score is fifty or more if you are a man, or one
hundred or more if you are a girl, you would seem to be a frank,
dependable person who makes few excuses and who tries to face
reality and do a good job. A score of forty for a man and eighty for
a girl are average. If you aje a man and have a score of thirty or
less or are a girl and have a score of sixty or less, you tend to blame
your mistakes on others, may shirk your responsibilities, exaggerate
and daydream too much. If your score was low, you should try to
improve, especially if you are a girl for whom this trait is quite
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crucial in marriage haappiness. Try to be more honest with yourself
and others; be less unreasonable, and stop being suspicious and
resentful of people who do not think and act as you do.
TRAIT V. If you are a man and have a score of forty or more, or are
a girl and have a score of eighty or more, you would appear to be a
stable person, confident, and responsible. You can work with others
or can work by yourself without getting lonely and depressed. An
average score is thirty for a man or sixty for a woman. If you are
a man and have a score of fifteen or less, or are a girl with a score
of thirty or less, you may be unstable, nervous, and fearful. You may
feel inferior at times and get blue and discouraged. You need to
raise your opinion of yourself. Acquire more social skills, train
yourself to be very good or expert in something like a sport or a
hobby.
TRAIT VI. If your score was thirty or above, you would seem to have
extremely high ideals and standards, especially if you are a man.
While this is generally desirable, don't permit yourself to become
too intolerant or prejudiced about others. A score of twenty-five
is average. A score of twenty or less is low and may indicate that
you are too broadminded, too flexible and expedient in your stand-
ards and ideals. Watch this because you are not the sort of person
who should let himself go. Keep a firm grip on yourself, and
remember it is easier never to begin a bad habit than it is to break
one.
TRAIT VII. If your score is eighty or more if you are a man, forty or
more if you are a girl, you are probably a very objective person who
thinks like most other people think. You are probably quite steady,
look at things dispassionately, and are neither repressed nor hyper-
critical. A score of seventy for a man, or of thirty-five for a girl
is average. A score of sixty or less for a man or of thirty or less for a
girl may indicate that you are temperamental and emotional. You
may, at times, appear peculiar and odd to your friends. You may be
repressed. Associate as much as possible with others. Don't be the
first to suggest something different or the last to give in.
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TRAIT VIII. If your score is twenty-two or more, you would seem
to be a person whose attitudes and interests are flexible and adapt-
able especially if you are in the twenties. If you are in the thirties
or forties a high score is probably less desirable than an average
score. A score of thirteen is average. If your score is eight or less,
you would seem to be a very persistent person whose attitudes and
interests are so fixed and rigid that you may find it difficult to adjust
readily in marriage. Especially would that seem to be the case if you
are in the twenties.
TRAIT IX. If you are a man and your final score is thirty or above;
or if you are a girl whose adjusted (doubled) score is sixty or more,
you would seem to be a thoughtful person who has done consider-
able thinking about marriage and its responsibilities. Particularly
does this seem to be true of women. Attitudes toward marriage
would appear to be wholesome and concerned about making the
marriage a success. A score of twenty-four for a man or of forty-
eight for a girl is average. A score of eighteen or less for a man or of
thirty-six or less for a girl is low and suggests that you may be
immature in your thinking and that you have not given much con-
sideration or thought to the responsibilities of marriage.
TRAIT X. This test measured your family background to see if you
had been reared in the kind of home in which parents and circum-
stances were favorable to developing traits and attitudes essential to
happy marriage. If you scored 120 or more, and remember the
higher the score the better, your family background was conducive
to your happiness in marriage. A score of one hundred is average.
If you scored eighty or less, it would seem that your family back-
ground was not one that tended to develop in you the traits and
attitudes necessary for happiness in marriage.
Summary
You took a total of ten tests. If you followed the directions, you
have scored them correctly. (If you were a man, you doubled your
scores on Traits III, IV, and VII before you interpreted them. If
you were a girl, you doubled your scores on Traits V and IX and
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quadrupled, or multiplied by four, the score you earned on Trait
IV.) After having made these adjustments, you then read the inter-
pretations and saw how you compared with other people of your
own sex. Perhaps your prospective mate also took the tests and both
of you now know how you stand as individuals.
We hope you and your mate made average to high scores on all of
these tests. But now you want to know if you are the sort of person,
and if your mate is the sort of person, who will be happy in
marriage.
Go back to your final adjusted scores on the ten tests. Add all ten
of these test scores together if you have not already done so to see
what the total is.
If you are a man, and your total is 450 or above you would seem
to be the sort of person who has an excellent chance of finding
happiness in marriage. This is particularly likely to be the case if
you also made high scores on Traits III, IV, VII, and X. If you
made a score of about 350 you would seem to be a person who has
about an average chance of achieving marriage happiness. If you
made a score of 265 or less, you will need to use great care in select-
ing your mate and be willing to work very hard at making your
marriage happy.
If you are a girl and if your score is five hundred or more, you are
the kind of person who would seem to have an excellent chance of
being happy in marriage. Especially is this likely to be the case if
you made high scores on Traits IV, V, IX, and X. If you made a
score of about four hundred, your chances would seem to be about
average that you will find happiness in marriage. A score of three
hundred or less is not too favorable to happiness in marriage.
In our next chapter you are going to be able to compare your
testing partner with yourself and see if the two of you would be
likely to be happy (if you married each other). So far we have just
tried to find out if you, or if your mate, is likely to be happy in what-
ever marriage is entered upon. In this next chapter we want to find
out if you two people are likely to be happy in your marriage to
each other. You will have need for the final (adjusted) scores on
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each of the ten tests, as well as your final or total score you calcu-
lated by adding the ten separate scores. With these scores for both
yourself and your mate, plus the answers to several other questions,
you will be able to find out if the two of you are likely to be happy
when you marry each other.
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Chapter XII
Now, See How You Match as* a Couple!
IN THE last chapter you and perhaps a testing partner took ten
tests to determine your individual chances of achieving happiness
in marriage. The tests recorded your rating on nine important per-
sonality traits and on your family background.
Now we will see how well matched you are. It is possible that you
can get a rough idea how well you are matched to an absentee
person without having him take any of the tests in these two chap-
ters. Suggestions for procedure in such a case are given at the end
of this chapter. However, it is much more desirable, if you want
a really accurate picture, to have the other person take the tests and
do the matching with you.
The matching of you two will be based not only on the scores you
made in the ten tests just taken and your total score on the tests, but
also on ten other factors which we have found are important in
predicting marital success. They include such things as age, educa-
tion, length of courtship and tendency to quarrel. These factors
together with your test results will present an accurate over-all
picture of your compatibility for marriage, or lack of it. And inci-
dentally a "matching" of two people is not as important when both
the man and the girl made a high score (above four hundred) in the
ten tests just taken as it is if one made a low score and the other
a high score, or- if both made low scores.
First of all let's pair up your scores on those ten tests in the last
chapter to see what your scores mean on each trait when they are
paired together.
Trait I is a sociability factor. You can see how two people, one
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who is sociable and something of a gadabout and the other a home-
body who isn't sociable, might not be well matched. Both should be
sociable and like to go out and be with people, or both should be
fireside toasters, home-loving souls who enjoy being alone with each
other.
Trait II is a measure of conformity, of agreeableness to others,
and conscientiousness. While it is better for both to score high on
this trait, if one scores low, it is better that the other score high.
Trait III is a measure of tranquillity or lack of irritability. While
it is better for both to score high, if one scores low, it is important
that the other should score high, or there may be considerable bick-
ering and angry feelings.
Trait IV is a measure of dependability, frankness, and willingness
to accept responsibility. This trait is of great importance to happi-
ness of both men and women, and it is especially important that a
girl score high here. Both should score high, but if one scores low,
it is quite important that the other score high.
Trait V is a measure of stability. Our research shows that it is of
the greatest importance that the two people make about the same
scores on this test. While it is better for both to be high, it is more
crucial that the girl make a high score, be very stable, than it is for
the man.
Trait VI is a measure of standards and ideals. Both should have
high scores but it is more important that the man have a good score
than the girl because girls have been trained to have higher ideals
than men. If one mate has a very low score, then the other by all
means should have a high score. That combination will provide a
balance wheel.
Trait VII is a measure of steadiness and freedom from excess
emotionality. While more important that the man score high, because
in most cases he will be the income earner, both should make about
the same scores.
Trait VIII is a measure of flexibility and adaptability. While aver-
age to high scores are important, and while agreement or about the
same scores are desirable, if one must score low it is better for the
man to do so than for the woman.
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Trait IX is a measure of thoughtfulness and consideration. This
is a much more important trait for women than for men, yet at the
same time, marriage happiness is definitely promoted by both mak-
ing about the same scores.
Trait X is important for either the man or the woman, because
it measures the family background of both people. It is important
that both score as high as possible on this trait. It is even more
important for the girl to score high than it is for the man. But
if either mate should score low, it is most important that the other
score high.
To sum up, it is important that both people make about the same
scores on sociability (I), conformity (II), dependability (IV), sta-
bility (V) idealism (VI), flexibility (VIII) and seriousness (IX),
and the higher the better. If one scored low on the other three
(tranquillity, steadiness and family background) it is important that
the other score high.
But how can you get a more detailed, concrete picture of your
compatibility, or lack of it? On the following pages you are going
to see your degree of compatibility emerge from a series of twenty-
one figures. When those twenty-one figures are totaled you will
have your answer.
Instructions
First glance over these "Do You Match?" tables on the next few
pages to familiarize yourself with them. In the twenty-one blocks
you will match yourselves on the ten traits already tested, you will
match your total scores on those traits and then in the last ten will
match yourself on ten other factors.
Take the very first item, "Test I." This matches you on sociability.
Suppose the man had an adjusted score of twenty-seven when he
took the sociability test in the last chapter and the girl had a score
of twenty-four. Look over the five alternative combinations to see
where such a scoring fits. It fits in combination (d) so you should
write a credit of three points in the block on the right. On "Test
II," suppose the man made an adjusted score of eighteen and the
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girl of seven. That's a big difference. Since no such combination
is shown, write a zero in the block.
DO YOU MATCH?
TEST i. a. Both scored 30 or above, give credit of 10 points
b. One scored 30 or above, other scored 25-29, credit
5 points
c. Both scored 25-29, credit 5 points
d. One scored 25-29, other scored 21-24, credit 3 points
e. Any other combination receives no credit
TEST ii. a. Both scored 15 or above, give credit of 8 points
b. One scored 15 or above, other scored 11-14, credit
4 points
c. Both scored 11-14, credit 2 points
d. Any other combination receives no credit
TEST in. a. Man scored 56 or above, girl 28 or above, credit 12
points
b. Man scored 56 or above, girl 23-27, credit 10 points
c. Man scored 46-55, girl 23 or above, credit 8 points
d. Man scored 37-45, girl scored 23 or above, credit 5
points
e. Any other combination receives no credit I I
TEST iv. a. Man scored 50 or above, girl 100 or above, credit
20 points
b. Girl scored 100 or above, man scored 40-49, credit
15 points
c. Girl scored 100 or above, man scored 31-39, credit
10 points
d. Man scored 40-49, girl scored 81-99, credit 8 points
e. Man scored 31-39, girl scored 81-99, credit 5 points
f. Any other combination receives no credit
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TEST v. a. Man scored 40 or above, girl 80 or above, credit 15
points
b. Man scored 31-39, girl 80 or above, credit 12 points
c. Man scored 21-29, girl 80 or above, credit 10 points
d. Man scored 40 or above, girl 60-79, credit 8 points
e. Man scored 31-39, girl 60-79, credit 5 points
f. Any other combination receives no credit
TEST vi. a. Both scored 30 or above, give credit of 10 points
b. One scored 30 or above, other scored 25-29, credit
5 points
c. Both scored 25-29, credit 5 points
d. One scored 25-29, other scored 21-24, credit 3 points
e. Any other combination receives no credit
TEST vii. a. Man scored 80 or above, girl 40 or above, credit 12
points
b. Man scored 80 or above, girl 35-39, credit 10 points
c. Man scored 71-79, girl 40 or above, credit 8 points
d. Man scored 71-79, girl 35-39, credit 5 points
e. Man scored 61-69, girl 40 or above, credit 3 points
f. Any other combination receives no credit
TEST vm. a. Both scored 22 or above, credit 10 points
b. Man scored 22 or above, girl 13-21, credit 8 points
c. Man scored 13-21, girl scored 22 or above, credit 5
points
d. Man scored 13-21, girl scored 13-21, credit 3 points
e. Any other combination receives no credit
TEST ix. a. Man scored 30 or above, girl scored 60 or above,
credit 15 points
b. Man scored 24-29, girl scored 60 or above, credit 12
points
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c. Man scored 19-23, girl scored 60 or above, credit 10
points
d. Man scored 30 or above, girl 48-59, credit 8 points
e. Man scored 24-29, girl scored 48-59, credit 5 points I""
f. Any other combination receives no credit I I
TEST x. a. Both scores 120 or above, credit 20 points