hausting character, and affords ladies a training in grace-
ful and charming movements. Lawn-tennis may be
played either in summer or winter, and in cold weather,
if the ground be dry, is a very agreeable out-door rec-
reation. At a croquet or garden party it is certainly a
desideratum.
The requisites for playing lawn-tennis, are a lawn or
level surface about 45 by 100 feet, as the "court" upon
which the playing is done is 27 by 78 feet. A net four
or five feet in height and 27 feet long, divides the court.
A ball made of india rubber and covered with cloth,
and a "racket" for each player are the implements
needed for playing. The racket is used for handling
the ball, and is about two feet in length, with net work
at the outer end, by means of which the ball is tossed
from one place to another. Rules for playing the game
are obtained with the implements needed, which can be
procured from dealers in such lines of goods.
SPORTS, GAMES, AMUSEMENTS.
i
CROQUET.
The game of croquet is played by opposite parties, of
one or more on a side, each player being provided with
a mallet and her own ball which are distinguished by
their color.
The players in their turn place their ball a mallet's
length from the starting stake, and strike it with the mal-
let, the object being to pass it through the first one or two
hoops. The turning or upper stake must be struck with
the ball before the player can pass her ball through the
returning hoops, and on returning to the starting point
the ball must hit the starting stake before the player is
the winner. The one who passes through all the hoops
and gets her ball to the starting stake first is the winner.
We do not give the rules of the game as each croquet
set is accompanied by a complete set of rules.
"Where four are playing, two of whom are gentlemen,
one lady and gentleman usually play as partners. As it
is the height of ill-manners to display any rudeness, no
lady or gentleman will be so far forgetful as to be-
come angry should the opposing parties be found
" cheating."
Invitations to a croquet party may be of the same
form as invitations to any other party.
BOATING.
Where there is a sufficiently large body or stream of
water to admit of it, boating is a very enjoyable recre-
ation, which may be pursued by both ladies and gentle-
SPOETS, GAMES, AMUSEMENTS. 405
men. There is much danger in sailing, and the proper
management of a sail-boat requires considerable tact
and experience. Rowing is safer, but caution should be
observed in not over-loading the boat. A gentleman
should not invite ladies to ride on the water unless he is
thoroughly capable of managing the boat. Rowing is
a healthful and delightful recreation, and many ladies
become expert and skillful at it. Every gentleman
should have some knowledge of rowing, as it is easily
acquired. If a gentleman who is inexperienced in row-
ing, goes out with other gentlemen in a boat, he should
refrain from any attempt to row, as he will only display
his awkwardness, and render the ride uncomfortable to
his companions.
In rowing with a friend, it is polite to offer him the
" stroke " oar, which is the post of honor.
When two gentlemen take a party of ladies out for a
row, one stands in the boat to steady it and offer assis-
tance to the ladies in getting seated, and the other aids
from the wharf.
A lady's dress for rowing should be one which will
give perfect freedom to her arm; a short skirt, stout
boots, and hat with sufficient brim to protect her face
from the sun.
PICNICS.
While ladies and gentlemen never forget their good
manners, and are always polite and courteous, yet at
picnics they are privileged to relax many of the forms
and ceremonies required by strict etiquette. Here men
406 SPORTS, GAMES, AMUSEMENTS.
and women mingle for a day of pleasure in the woods or
fields, or on the water, and it is the part of all who
attend to do what they can for their own and their
neighbor's enjoyment. Hence, formal introductions
and other ceremonies need not stand in the way of en-
joyment either by ladies or gentlemen, and at the same
time no act of rudeness should occur to mar the pleas-
ure of the occasion. It is the duty of gentlemen to do
all they can to make the occasion enjoyable and even
mirthful. They should also look to providing the means
of conveyance to and from the spot selected for the fes-
tivities, make such arrangements as are necessary in the
way of providing music, games, boats, and whatever else
is needed to enhance the pleasure of the day. The
ladies provide the luncheon or dinner, which is spread
upon the grass or eaten out of their baskets, and at
which the restraints of the table are withdrawn. At
picnics, gentlemen become the servants as well as the
escorts and guides of the ladies, and perform such ser-
vices for ladies in the way of procuring flowers, carrying
baskets, climbing trees, baiting their fish-hooks, and
many other things as are requested of them.
PBIVATE THEATRICALS.
Private theatricals may be made very pleasing and
instructive entertainments for fall or winter evenings,
among either young or married people. They include
charades, proverbs, tableaux, dramatic readings, and
the presentation of a short dramatical piece, and may
SPORTS, GAMES, AMUSEMENTS. 407
successfully be given in the parlor or drawing room.
The hostess seeks the aid of friends in the preparation
of her arrangements, and if a drama has been deter-
mined upon, she assigns the various parts to each.
Her friends should aid her in her efforts by giving her
all the assistance they can, and by willingly and good-
naturedly complying with any request she may make,
accepting the parts allotted to them, even if they are
obscure or distasteful. They should endeavor to per-
form their part in any dramatical piece, tableau or
charade as well as possible, and the success they achieve
will determine how conspicuous a part they may be
called upon to perform at a subsequent time. The
hostess should consult each performer before alloting a
part, and endeavor to suit each one. The host or hostess
should not have any conspicuous part assigned them,
unless it is urged by all the other performers. Those
who are to participate, should not only learn their parts,
but endeavor to imbue themselves with the spirit of the
character they personate, so as to afford pleasure to all
who are invited to witness its performance. When per-
sons have consented to participate in any such entertain-
ment, only sickness or some very grave cause should
prevent them from undertaking their part. Supper or
refreshments usually follow private theatricals, of which
both the performers and invited guests are invited to
partake, and the remainder of the evening is spent in
social intercourse.
408 * SPORTS, GAMES, AMUSEMENTS.
ETIQUETTE OF CAED PLATING.
Never urge any one who seems to be unwilling to
play a game of cards. They may have conscientious
scruples in the matter, which must be respected.
If you have no scruples of conscience, it is not courte-
ous to refuse, when a game cannot be made up without
you.
You may refuse to play if you do not understand the
game thoroughly. If, however, you are urged to try,
and your partner and opponents offer to instruct you,
you may accede to their requests, for in so doing, you
will acquire a better knowledge of the game.
Married and elderly people take precedence over
young and unmarried people, in a game of cards.
It is the privilege of the host and hostess to suggest
cards as a means of amusement for the guests. The
latter should never call for them.
" Whist " is a game of cards so-called, because it re-
quires silence and close attention. Therefore in playing
this game, you must give your whole attention to the
cards, and secure at least comparative silence. Do not
suggest or keep up any conversation during a game,
which will distract your own mind or the mind of others
from the game.
Never hurry any one who is playing. In endeavoring
to play their best, they should take their own time,
without interruption.
Betting at cards is vulgar, partakes of the nature of
gambling, and should at all times be avoided.
8POKTS, GAMES, AMUSEMENTS.
Never finger the cards while they are being dealt, nor
take up any of them until all are dealt out, when you
may take your own cards and proceed to play.
In large assemblies it is best to furnish the cards and
tables, and allow guests to play or not, at their option,
the host and hostess giving their assistance in seeking
for people disposed to play, and in making up a game.
In giving card parties, new cards should be provided oa
every occasion.
CHAPTER XXXV.
OW beautiful and yet how cheap are
flowers! Not exotics, but what are
called common flowers. A rose, for
instance, is among the most beautiful
of the smiles of nature. The " laugh-
ing flowers," exclaims the poet. But
there is more than gayety in bloom-
ing flowers, though it takes a wise man
to see the beauty, the love, and the adap-
tation of which they are full.
What should we think of one who had
invented flowers, supposing that, before him,
flowers were unknown? Would he not be
regarded as the opener-up of a paradise of new
delight ? Should we not hail the inventor as a genius,
as a god ? And yet these lovely offsprings of the earth
have been speaking to man from the first dawn of his
existence until now, telling him of the goodness and
wisdom of the Creative Power, which bid the earth
bring forth, not only that which was useful as food, but
also flowers, the bright consummate flowers to clothe it
in beauty and joy!
(410)
FLOWERS.
" The meanest flower that blows can give
Thoughts that do of tea lie too deep for teal*. 1
THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWKRS. 411
Bring one of the commonest field-flowers into a room,
place it on a table, or chimney -piece, and you seem to
have brought a ray of sunshine into the place. There
is a cheerfulness about flowers. What a delight are
they to the drooping invalid! They are a sweet enjoy-
ment, coming as messengers from the country, and
seeming to say, "Come and see the place where we
grow, and let your heart be glad in our presence."
There is a sentiment attached to flowers, and this
sentiment has been expressed in language by giving
names to various flowers, shrubs and plants. These
names constitute a language, which may be made the
medium of pleasant and amusing interchange of thought
between men and women. A bouquet of flowers and
leaves may be selected and arranged so as to expivss
much depth of feeling to be truly a poem. We pre-
sent herewith a list of many flowers and plants, to
which, by universal consent, a sentiment has become
attached.
Acacia Concealed love.
Acacia, Rose Friendship.
Acanthus Arts.
Adonis Vernalis Bitter memories.
Agnus Casus Coldness.
Agrimony Thankfulness.
Almond Hope.
Aloe Superstition.
Althea Consumed by love.
Alyssum, Sweet Worth beyond beauty.
Amaranth Immortality.
Amaryllis Splendid beauty.
Ambrosia Love returned.
Anemone Expectation.
412 THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWERS.
Anemone, Garden Forsaken.
Angelica Inspiration.
Apocynura (Dogbane) Inspiration.
Apple Temptation.
Apple Blossom Preference.
Arbor vitae Unchanging friendship.
Arbutus, Trailing Welcome.
Arum Ardor.
Ash Gran deur.
Ash, Mountain Prudence.
Aspen Tree Lamentation.
Asphodel Regrets beyond the grave*
Aurilica Avarice.
Azalea Romance.
Bachelor's Button Hope in love.
Balm Sympathy.
Balm of Gilead Healing.
Balsam Impatience.
Barberry Sharpness, satire.
Basil Hatred.
Bay Leaf No change till death.
Beech Prosperity.
Bee Ophrys Error.
Bee Orchis Industry.
Bell Flower Gratitude.
Belvidere, Wild (Licorice) I declare against you,
Bilberry Treachery.
Birch Tree Meekness.
Black Bryony Be my support.
Bladder-Nut Tree Frivolous amusement?
Blue Bottle Delicacy.
Borage Bluntness.
Box Constancy.
Briers Envy.
Broken Straw Constancy.
Broom Neatness.
Buckbean Calm repose.
Bugloss Falsehood.
Burdock Importunity.
THE LANGUAGE OF FLO WEBS. 413
Buttercup Riches.
Cactus Thou leavest me.
Calla Lilly Feminine beauty.
Calycanthus Benevolence.- *
Camelia Pity.
Camomile Energy in action.
Candytuft Indifference.
Canterbury Bell Gratitude.
Cape Jasmine Gardenia Transport, ecstasy.
Cardinal Flower Distinction.
Carnation, Yellow Disdain.
Catchfly (Silene), Red Youthful love.
Catchfly, White I fall a victim.
Cedar I live for thee.
Cedar of Lebanon Incorruptible.
Celandine Future joy.
Cherry Tree Good education.
Chickweed I cling to thee.
Chickory Frugality.
China Aster I will think of thee.
China, Pink Aversion.
Chrysanthemum, Rose In love.
Chrysanthemum. White Truth.
Chrysanthemum, Yellow Slighted love.
Cinquefoil Beloved child.
Clematis Artifice.
Clover, Red Industry.
Coboaa Gossip.
Coxcomb Foppery.
Colchium My best days fled.
Coltsfoot Justice shall be done you.
Columbine Folly.
Columbine, Purple Resolved to win.
Columbine, Red Anxious.
Convolvulus Major Dead hope.
Convolvulus Minor Uncertainty.
Corchorus Impatience of happiness.
Coreopsis Love at first sight.
Coriander Hidden merit.
414: THE LANGUAGE OF FLO WEBS.
Corn Riches.
Cornelian Cherry Tree Durability.
Coronilla Success to you.
Cowslip Pensiveness.
Cowslip, American My divinity.
Crocus Cheerfulness.
Crown Imperial Majesty.
Currants You please me.
Cypress Mourning.
Cypress and Marigold Despair.
Daffodil Chivalry.
Dahlia Forever thine.
Daisy, Garden I share your feelings.
Daisy, Michaelmas Farewell.
Daisy, Red Beauty unknown to possessor
Daisy, White Innocence.
Daisy, Wild I will think of it.
Dandelion Coquetry.
Daphne Mezereon I desire to please.
Daphne Odora I would not have you otherwise.
Deadleaves Sadness.
Diosma Usefulness.
Dittany Birth.
Dock Patience.
Dodder Meanness.
Dogwood Flowering (Cornus) Am I indifferent to
you?
Ebony Hypocrisy.
Eglantine I wound to heal.
Elder Compassion.
Elm Dignity.
Endine Frugality.
Epigrea, Repens (Mayflower) Budding beauty.
Eupatoriutn Delay.
Evening Primrose Inconstancy.
Evergreen Poverty.
Everlasting (Graphalium) Never ceasing memory.
Filbert Reconciliation.
Fir Tree Elevation.
THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWERS. 415
Flax I feel your kindness.
Flora's Bell Without pretension.
Flowering Reed Confide in heaven.
Forget-me-not True love.
Foxglove Insincerity.
Fraxinella Fire.
Fritilaria (Guinea-hen Flower) Persecution.
Furze Anger.
Fuchsia The ambition of my love thus plagues itself.
Fuchsia, Scarlet Taste.
Gardenia Transport; Ecstasy.
Gentian, Fringed Intrinsic worth.
Geranium, Apple Present preference.
Geranium, Ivy Your hand for next dance.
Geranium, Nutmeg I expect a meeting.
Geranium, Oak Lady, deign to smile.
Geranium, Rose Preference.
Geranium, Silver-leaf Recall.
Gillyflower Lasting beauty.
Gladiolus Ready armed.
Golden Rod Encouragement.
Gooseberry Anticipation.
Goosefoot Goodness.
Gorse Endearing affection.
Grape Charity.
Grass Utility.
Guelder Rose (Snowball) "Winter,
Harebell Grief.
Hawthorn Hope.
Heart's Ease Think of me.
Heart's Ease, Purple You occupy my thoughts.
Hazel Reconciliation.
Heath Solitude.
Helenium Tears.
Heliotrope, Peruvian I love; devotion.
Hellebore Scand al.
Henbane Blemish.
Hepatica Confidence.
Hibiscus Delicate Beauty.
416 THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWEES.
Holly Foresight.
Hollyhock Fruitfulness.
Hollyhock, White Female ambition.
Honesty (Lunaria) Sincerity.
Honeysuckle The bond of love.
Honeysuckle, Coral The color of my fate.
Honeysuckle, Monthly I will not answer hastily
Hop In j ustice.
Hornbeam Ornament.
Horse-Chestnut Luxury.
House-Leek Domestic Economy.
Houstonia Content.
Hoya (Wax Plant) Sculpture.
Hyacinth Jealousy.
Hyacinth, Blue Constancy.
Hyacinth, Purple Sorrow.
Hydrangea Heartlessness.
Ice Plant Your looks freeze me.
Indian Cress Resignation.
Ipomaca I attach myself to you.
Iris Message.
Iris, German Flame.
Ivy Friendship; matrimony.
Jessamine, Cape Transient joy.
Jessamine, White Amiability.
Jessamine, Yellow Grace; elegance.
Jonquil Return my affection.
Judas-Tree Betrayed.
Juniper Perfect Loveliness.
Kalmia (Mountain Laurel) Treachery.
Kennedia Intellectual beauty.
Laburnum Pensive Beauty.
Lady's Slipper Capricious beauty.
Lagerstroema (Cape Myrtle) Eloquence.
Lantana Rigor.
Larch Boldn ess.
Larkspur Fickleness.
Laurel Glory.
JLaurestinus I die if neglected.
THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWERS. 417
Lavender Distrust.
Lemon Blossom Discretion.
Lettuce Cold-hearted.
Lilac First emotion of love.
Lilac, White Youth.
Lily Purity; modesty.
Lily of the Valey Return of happiness.
Lily, Day Coquetry.
Lily, Water Eloquence.
Lily, Yellow Falsehood.
Linden Tree Conjugal love.
Live Oak Liberty.
Liverwort Confidence.
Locust Affection beyond the grave.
London Pride Frivolity.
Lotus Forgetful of the past.
Love in a Mist You puzzle me,
Love Lies Bleeding Hopeless, not heartless.
Lucerne Life.
Lungwort (Pulmonaria) Thou art my life.
Lupine Imagination.
Lychnis Religious Enthusiasm.
Lythrum Pretension.
Madder Calumny.
Maiden's Hair Discretion.
Magnolia, Chinese Love of Nature.
Magnolia, Grandiflora Peerless and Proud.
Magnolia, Swamp Perseverance.
Mallow Sweetness.
Mandrake Horror,
Maple Reserve.
Marigold Cruelty.
Marigold, African Vulgar-minded.
Marigold, French Jealousy*
Marjoram Blushes.
Marshmallow Beneficence.
Marvel of Peru (Four o'clock) Timidity.
Meadow Saffron My best days gone.
Meadow Sweet Usefulness.
418 THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWERS.
Mignonette Your qualities surpass your charms.
Mimosa Sensitiveness.
Mint Virtue.
Mistletoe I surmount all difficulties.
Mock Orange (Syringia) Counterfeit.
Monkshood A deadly foe is near.
Moonwort Forgetfulness.
Morning Glory Coquetry,
Moss Maternal love.
Motherwort Secret Love.
Mourning Bride (Scabious) Unfortunate attachment.
Mouse-ear Chickweed Simplicity.
Mulberry, Black I will not survive you.
Mulberry, White Wisdom.
Mullein Good nature.
Mushroom Suspicion.
Mush Plant Weakness.
Mustard Seed Indifference.
Myosotis Forget me not.
Myrtle Love.
Narcissus Egotism.
Nasturtium Patriotism.
Nettle Cruelty; Slander.
Night Blooming Cereus Transient beauty.
Nightshade Bitter truth.
Oak Hospitality.
Oats Music.
Oleander Beware.
Orange Generosity.
Orange Flower Chastity.
Orchis Beauty.
Osier Frankness.
Osmunda Dreams.
Pansy Think of me.
Parsley Entertainment.
Pasque Flower Unpretentious.
Passion Flower Religious Fervor.
Pea Appointed meeting.
Pea, Everlasting Wilt go with me ?
THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWEB8. 419
Pea, Sweet Departure.
Peach Blossom My heart is thine
Pear Tree Affection.
Peony Anger.
Pennyroyal Flee away.
Periwinkle Sweet memories
Persimmon Bury me amid nature's beaucies
Fetumca Am not proud.
Pheasant's Eye Sorrowful memories.
Phlox Our souls united.
Pimpernel Change.
Pine Time.
Pine Apple You are perfect.
Pine, Spruce Farewell.
Pink Pure affection.
Pink, Clove Dignity.
Pink, Double-red Pure, ardent love.
Pink, Indian Aversion.
Pink, Mountain You are aspiring.
Pink, Variegated Refusal.
Pink, White You are fair.
Pink, Yellow Disdain.
Plane Tree Genius.
Pleurisy Root (Asclopias) Heartache cure.
Plum Tree Keep promise.
Plum Tree, Wild Independence.
Polyanthus Confidence.
Poplar, Black Courage.
Poplar, White Time.
Poppy Consolation.
Poppy, White Sleep of the heart.
Pomegranate Foolishness.
Pomegranate Flower Elegance.
Potato Beneficence.
Pride of China (Melia) Dissension.
Primrose Early youth.
Primrose, Evening Inconstancy.
Privet Mildness.
Pumpkin Coarseness.
420 THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWEB8,,
Quince Temptation.
Ragged-robin (Lychnis) Wit.
Ranunculus Radiant with charms.
Reeds Music.
Rhododendron Agitation.
Rose Beauty.
Rose, Austrian Thou art all that is lovely.
Rose, Bridal Happy love.
Rose, Burgundy Unconscious beauty.
Rose, Cabbage Love's Ambassador.
Rose, Campion Only deserve my love.
Rose, Carolina Love is dangerous.
Rose, China Grace.
Rose, Daily That smile I would aspire to.
Rose, Damask Freshness.
Rose, Dog Pleasure and pain.
Rose, Hundred Leaf Pride.
Rose, Inermis Ingratitude.
Rose, Maiden's Blush If you do love me you will
find me out.
Rose, Moss Superior merit.
Rosebud, Moss Confessed love.
Rose, Multiflora Grace.
Rose, Musk-cluster Charming.
Rose, Sweetbriar Sympathy.
Rose, Tea Always lovely.
Rose, Unique Call me not beautiful,
Rose, White I am worthy of you.
Rose, White (withered) Transient impression.
Rose, Wild Simplicity.
Rose, Yellow Decrease of love.
Rose, York and Lancaster War.
Roses, Garland of Reward of Virtue.
Rosebud Young girl.
Rosebud, White The heart that knows not love.
Rosemary Your presence revives me
Rue Disdain.
Rush Docility.
Saffron Excess is dangerous.
THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWEKS. 421
Sage Esteem.
Sardonia Irony.
Satin-flower (Lunaria) Sincerity.
Scabious, Mourning Bride Widowhood.
Sensitive Plant Timidity.
Service Tree Prudence.
Snapdragon Presumption.
Snowball Thoughts of heaven.
Snowdrop Consolation.
Sorrel Wit ill-timed.
Southernwood Jesting.
Spearmint Warm feelings.
Speedwell, Veronica Female fidelity.
Spindle-tree Your image is engraven on my heart.
Star of Bethlehem Reconciliation.
Starwort, American Welcome to a stranger.
St. John's Wort (Hypericum) Superstition.
Stock, Ten-week Promptitude.
Stramonium, Common Disguise.
Strawberry Perfect excellence.
Strawberry Tree (Arbutus) Esteemed love.
Sumac Splendor.
Sunflower, Dwarf Your devout admirer.
Sunflower, Fall Pride.
Sweet Sultan Felicity.
Sweet William Artifice.
Sycamore Curiosity.
Syringia Memory.
Tansy I declare against you.
Teasel Misanthropy.
Thistle Austerity.
Thorn Apple Deceitful charms.
Thorn, Black Difficulty.
Thorns Severity,
Thrift Sympathy.
Throatwood (Pulmonaria) Neglected beauty.
Thyme Activity.
Tiger Flower May pride befriend thee.
Touch me not, Balsam Impatience.
4-22 THE LANGUAGE OF FLOWEE8.
Truffle Surprise.
Trumpet Flower Separation.
Tuberose Dangerous pleasures.
Tulip Declaration of love.
Tulip Tree Rural happiness.
Tulip, Variegated Beautiful eyes.
Tulip, Yellow Hopeless love.
Turnip Charity.
Valerian Accommodating disposition.
Venus's Flytrap Caught at last.
Venus's Looking-glass Flattery.
Verbena Sensibility.
Vine In toxicating.
Violet, Blue Love.
Violet, White Modesty.
Violet, Yellow Modest worth.
Virgin's Bower Filial love.
Wall Flower Fidelity.
Walnut Stratagem.
Weeping Willow Forsaken.
Wheat Prosperity.
Woodbine Fraternal love.
Wood Sorrel Joy.
Wormwood Absence.
Yarrow Cure for heartache.
Yew Sorrow.
Zennae Absent friends.
CHAPTER XXXVI
g touts.
OME of the precious stones and gems
have been given a distinct signifi-
cance by imparting a special mean-
ing or name to them. The ancients
besides considered certain months
sacred to the different stones, and
some people have considered this in
making birthday or wedding presents,
Below will be found the stones regarded
as sacred to the various months, with the
meaning given to each.
January Garnet Constancy and Fidelity.
February Amethyst Sincerity.
March Bloodstone Courage.
April Sapphire Repentance.
May Emerald Success in love.
June Agate Health and long life.
July Ruby Forgetfulness of, and exemption from
vexations caused by friendship and love.
August Sardonyx Conjugal Fidelity.
September Chrysolite Freedom from evil passions
and sadness of mind.
October Opal Hope and Faith.
November Topaz Fidelity and Friendship.
December Turquoise Prosperity.
(423)
424:
PRECIOUS STONES.
Of the precious stones not included in the above list,
the language is given below:
Diamond Innocence.
Pearl Purity.
Cornelian Contented mind.
Moonstone Protects from danger.
Heliotrope Causing the owner to walk invisible
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