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make use of the means which he does supply ;
both in faithfully minding the internal teach-
ings of his blessed Sprit, attending our meet-
ings for Divine worship, rightly protilting by
the use of the Holy Scriptures, and fulfilling
the private duties which we owe to the young
people, and to one another. Then as he has
always made use of outward means in gather-
ing a church, in governing and ordering that
church, so we shall find it to be our duty and
our religious concern to employ proper means
to inform the j'oung people of the doctrines,
principles and duties of the Christian religion,
and to encourage them, by our example and
precept, to live up to all its requirements.

Some may prufess to be afraid of falling
into a form, or an habitual reading of the Bible,
and relying upon it as sufficient — but there will
be no danger of this, if they are the spiritually
minded people they profess to desire to be.
The Holy Spirit will keep them alive unto
God, and sanctify and bless the practice of
frequently reading the Bible. A little close
self-examination might lead some to see, that
the greatest fear they really have is, the loss
of the time, and the effort it may require,
which they are unwilling to withdraw from
their stores, their shops, counting-houses, or
the necessary work on their farms — hurrying
and driving on in their worldly concerns, but
slothful and indifferent about those of the
world to come, and the instruction and godly
training of their children. They are very
laborious in tilling and dressing their fields to
ensure good crops; but perhaps too much ne-
glecting the cultivation of the minds of their
children, and allowing them to become injured
by the growth of noxious weeds, or habits, or
pernicious principles, which is of far higher
importance than all the produce of their farms
or their merchandise.

If Friends are not more generally aroused
to the proper training and instruction of their
children at home, manifesting to them con-
stantly a deeper interest in their spiritual and
everlasting welfare, than in the increase of
their wealth — their fields and cattle — is there



no danger that in a few years we may find
many of them grown up in ignorance of our
religious principles, uiisubjected to the re-
straints of the cross, and a wholesome paren-
tal discipline, unprepared to support and defend
our doctrines, and indifferent whether they
reniain in membership with us, or fall in with
the popular currents of the neighbourhood in
fashion, habits, and religious, or irreligious
profession ? Not a few who have already sepa-
rated from us have been drawn into the vortex
of infidelity, and with other unbelievers are
striving to allure into the same fearful abyss
our young people with whom they have oppor-
tunity of mingling. How dreadful the thought,
of having I he mind of a dear child poisoned
by the dark and diabolical principles of infi-
delity ; and how it will add to the anguish of
parents, to he compelled to sec that for w ant of
early and steady attention to their children,
by example, restraint, and home instruction,
they have cast them out on the world to form
their own manners, and to take their princi-
ples and sentiments from persons of no reli-
gious feeling, but who are contenming and
despising the solemn obligations which they
owe to their Ahnighly Creator, and their
Judge.

Take the example of the Apostle Paul in
his deep interest for Timothy, his adopted son
in the faith, and the evidence he furnishes of
the pious concern of Timothy's grandmother
and mother for his education and instruction
in the Holy Scriptures. "I thank God whom
I serve from my forefathers with puie con-
science, that, without ceasing, I have remem-
brance of thee in my prayers night and day ;
greatly desiring to see thee, being mindful of
thy tears, that 1 may be filled with joy ; when
I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that
is in thee, which dwelt Jirst in thy grand-
mother Lois, and thy mother Eunice, and 1
am persuaded that in thee also." What mu-
tual affection and interest are here manifest
between the apostle and Timothy, and the
lively impression on his mind of the operative
faith of the aged grandmother, and his mother,
leading them to instruct their son in the com-
mandments of the Lord, as contained in the
Scriptures of the Old Testament, which testify
of Christ, and of many of the revelations and
heavenly experiences of holy men of old.
" Continue thou," says the apostle, " in the
things which thou hast learned and hast been
assured of, knowing of whom thou hast learn-
ed them ;" this probably also relates to the
Christian instruction of the npostle; "and
that from a child thou hast known the Holy
Scriptures, which are able to make thee wise
unto salvation, through faith which is in
Christ Jesvs. All Scripture is given bj- in-
spiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine,
for reproof, for correction, for instruction in
righteousness, that the man of God may be
perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good
works." S. N.



The Bible for the Blind. — It gives us great
pleasure to announce that the entire Bible for
the use of the blind has been completed by the
American Bible Society, under the superin-



272

tendance of Dr. Samuel G. Howe,
been a work of great labour and cost.-
Com. Adv.



It has

-N. Y.



From the Tennessee Slate Agriculturisl.
IMPROVE YOUR HOME, ETC.

Is it not the desire of all parents, that their
children should love home? if so, beautify and
adorn your homes, so as to make them the
most pleasant and loveahle place to them.

"The springtime is coming," the season
when nature decks herself in her gayest at-
tire, and all things living, seem endued with
new life and vigour. Begin then with nature;
she will lend you kind assistance; plant trees
fruits and flowers, tend, work and water them,
let your children assist you, give each his por-
tion in the laliour of love — who that ever plan-
ted a flower, and watched it from the time of
putting the unsightly root into mother earth,
to the first peeping forth of the green leaf, to
the full expansion of its beautiful bloom, but
lool^s back with pleasure on his sensations of
delight and exultation, as he culled it for the
one he loved best? How his face glowed and
his heart beat, as he eagerly displayed the
prize 1 Who can walk in the garden at dewy
eve or rosy morn, inhaling the delightful per-
fume rising as incense to the Giver of all good
from every bud and flower, and not feel his
own heart lifted up in praise for so many bless-
ings ? The mind is naturally led to harmo-
nious reflections, by contemplating nature in
her most alluring forms. Adorn your homes
then with all her choice productions, so that
in after life, when your children are suiroun-
ded with care and trouble, home will rise up



L green spot in memory s was



Let'



children share yr



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uits, it will make



them love home better, more affectionate tow-
ard each other, and give them more confidence
in you: they will find there is indeed "no place
like home;" instead of an irksomeness and re-
serve in your presence, they will feel confi-
dence, and consider you their best friends and



their wild, rugged, and often barren country
more then any other people? It is because
they bestow more labour on it, they toil inces-
santly in tilling the earth, and feel more affec-
tion for that spot. In most countries the great
struggle is, to keep the homestead from gener-
ation to generation, while we still continue
the "squatting" propensities of our forefathers
our children, like a flock of birds, leave us as
soon as fledged — not but I would have them
independent, have them so by all means ; and
to have them so, I would do away the great
love of speculation, the making haste to be
rich, the efisjcts of which so many are sinking
under at this very lime: and make our boys
quiet, sober and inteUigtnt men, our girls well
informed, cheerful, healthy, amiable, and
affectionate. If you wish your boy to be a
good son, good brother, good husband and good
man, make him love home; it will also deliver
him from the manifold temptations that beset
a young man's path — he will, by sharing his
mother's and sister's pursuits, acquire a great
er interest in them, and have a more affee



THE FRIEND.

ionate regard and greater sympathy with
hem; it will rub off the rough points of his
character, refine and polish him, strengthen
and exalt the mind of the sisters, add ease and
grace to their deportment with the rougher
sex. By making home agreeable, you height-
en the affection of your children for yourselves,
and prevent Iheir seeking enjoyment, and
amusement elsewhere — you will have them
more under your parental eye, and thus be
able to check many au embryo fault kindly
and gently, which, if left unrestrained, would
wring many a tear of anguish from your
hearts. Has not the Father oC all made this
universal garden beautiful and lovely in the
extreme? Is it not enriched with all that is
pleasant to the eye and grateful to the taste;
even every thing that the heart of man can
desire, to make this, our temporary home, a
paradise ; and shall we not follow such a glo-
rious example, and make the transient home
of our children pleasant and sweet. By adorn-
ing and making them pleasant within and
beautiful without, they will in truth say, "there
is no place like home."

AuxT Chahity.

Franklin, Jan. 1843.

From the Farmers' Cabinet.

Salt for Grub Worms. — A correspondent
of the New Genesee Farmer says, that aft
finding the grub worm was cutting oft" his corn
and cabbages at a sad rate, he first applied
ashes, then soot, and then Scotch snuff to the
hill, hoping to destroy or drive away the
worm; but it was all to no purpose. After-
wards, seeing if slated that satt was very dis-
agreeable to the grub, he applied about two
table spoonfuls to each hill of corn or cabbage,
placing it so as not to touch the plant. ' The
worms left them immediately.

Another says, that by putting about " a
pinch" of salt to each plant, two or three
times, the worm ceased his depredations. He
also mentions a neighbour, who watered his
cabbages daily with water from a salt pork
barrel, and was not troubled ; but as soon as
he discontinued the practice, his plants were
attacked, equally with his neighbuuis.

L.



"A firm trust in an Almighty Protector
produces patience, hope, cheerfulness, and all
those dispositions of mind which disarm po.
verty of its sting."



THS FRIEND.



Even the Fourth month for the greater part
was but a prolongation of mitigated winter, so
that vegetation seemed to have no encourage-
ment to put forth its dormant energies. But
at length " the time of the singing of birds
has come," bleak winds and chilling rains
have given place to genial showers and revi-
ving warmth — the fields, the meadows, the
woods, assume their beautiful garniture of
green and fragrant bloom, and all nature re-
joices in the delightful and refreshing transi-
tion. Within the last fortnight, so rapid has
been the change, that at the present time no
very striking backwardness in the growth of
crops is perceptible, and the prospects of grain
and fruits are generally in a high degree
hopeful. As commemorative of this happy con-
dition of things, we have inserted some chaste
and appropriate stanzas selected by a friend.

DVMOND'S ESSAYS.
The new edition of Jonathan Dymond's Es-
says on the Principles of Morality, noticed in
" The Friend" some weeks since, is now pub-
lished, and ready for sale, by George W. I'ay-
lor. No. .50 North Fourth Street, up stairs.
Price 874 cents for a single copy — eight
copies or more, 75 cents, cash.

Correction. — In the notice of the death of
Elizabeth Satterthwaite, last week, for relict
read uife. It was printed according to the
copy sent us ; but a friend has since informed
of the mistake.

WA>TED

At Haverford School — x\ Teacher of Mathe-
matics and Natural Philosophy. Also, one of
the Greek and Latin languages and Litera-
ture. Application may be made to Charles
Yarnall, No. 39 Market street; or to George
Stewardson, No. 90 Arch street, Philadel-
phia.

A special meeting of the Haverford School
Association, will be held at the Committee-
room in Arch street Meeting-house, on Se-'
cond-day afternoon, 29th instant, at four
o'clock.

Charles Ellis, Sec'rt/.

Philad., Fifth mo. 12lh, 1843.

TO RENT.

A commodious house, with stable, garden,
&c., situated on the Columbia rail-road, oppo-
site to Haverford School. A Friend's family
would be preferred ; and it is thought to be a
good situation for taking summer boarders.
Apply at this office.



FIFTH MONTH, 20, 1843.



The temperature of the weather for the
past half year, has been peculiar, and its usual
order in some respects inverted. The first
brumal month, with the exception of a brief
interval or two, was remarkably mild ; and
nearly throughout the next, the air was bland
and almost summer-like. The last, however,
set in fiercely cold, and with but slight inter-
mission, the reign of frost held continuous
sway through that and the month succeeding.



Marrikd, on Fourth. day, the 3d instant, at Friends'
Meeting-house, on Orange street, Damel Ofti-e»
SHAnrLEss, to Esther Shove Hacker, daughter of
William E. Hacker.



Died, on the morning of the eleventh instant, after a
short illness, in tlie 3:)d year of her age, Elizabeth R.,
wile of Benjamin E. Valentine, of this city, and daugh-
ter of the late Samuel Rhoads, of Upper Darby.

PRINTED BY JOSEPH &. WILLIAM KITE,
Seventh and Carpenter Streets.



A RELIGIOUS AND LITERARY JOURNAL.



VOIm XVI.



SEVENTH-DAT, FIFTH »XOZTTH, 27, 1843.



NO. 35.



£DITED BY ROBERT SMITH,

PUBLISHED WEEKLY.

Priet (wo dMats per annum, payablein adtanct.

Subscriptions and Payments received by

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PHILADELPHIA.



CORPORAL PUNISHMENT.

(Continued from page 218.)
Be a philosopher, act the Cliristian, and
make allowance for the constitutional difler-
ences of children. But I hear it said, — " They
sin against so much light, and repeated admo-
nitions, violating their own acknowledged con-
victions of duty and pledges of amendment."
True ; and so do we all. " In many things
we offend all," saith the apostle ; and these
school lemptations are great trials to little
children. Who is there that has not been
convinced of his error, acknowledged it, pur-
posed and promised (at least secretly) amend-
ment, and yet continued in tlie sin ; and that
too ao-ainst the clearest convictions of duty 1
My young brother, examine thyself, and thou
wilt find that, in the sight of God, thou art
every day virtually guilty of that, which in
these children so much disturbs thy equani-
mity, and which, in thy estimation, is so
clearly deserving of chastisement. Let the
consideration move thee to forgiveness. Re-
buke with all long-suffering. Meanwhile,
spare no pains to make thyself, and to show
thyself a workman that needeth not to be
ashamed of his work. Let thy scholars see
that thou hast their interest, their improve-
ment, their happiness at heart. Lose not thy
faith, or patience, or hope. Relax not thy
efforts, and thnu wilt succeed. But still I hear
it asked, — " Why not take each of these chil-
dren and give him a good basting? That will
make him leave off his play, mind his proper
business, and get good lessons; and it is all
done and got through with in about five
minutes." I answer, because it is by no
means certain that it will have this effect ;
there is not indeed a very high probability of
it ; the probability rather is, that there will
be need to do the like a second time. More-
over, there is danger that such a process
would arouse the angry passions, provoking
unto wrath. Besides, there is very little
moral or spiritual training in such a process.
Whatever seeming good it may accomplish,
the cause of education must stand very little
indebted to it. A teacher would feel a higher
degree of satisfaction, — that he had achieved



a nobler victory, — had he brought about a
reform by a process less summary, yet more
accordant to sound philosophy, and the moral
and intellectual nature of man. Then let him
take, not the course which is the most expedi-
tious and easiest to himself, but that which
will in the highest degree advance the cause
of education.

But you have not stated your strongest
case. Well, let us hear it. " Here is a boy
who refuses, outright, and in the presence of
the whole school, to obey orders ; — moreover,
he is taking attitudes of insult and defiance.
Shall I not come upon him at once, and, by
the might of my arm, crush him to the floor?"
Oh no ! " Well, will any thing but the rod
meet the demands of such an aggravated
case ?" I think so. I will relate pretty soon
some cases, more aggravated than this, which
have been disposed of without the help of the
rod. This boy, very likely, has an unhappy
temper naturally, which indulgence and pro-
vocation and a very injudicious education have
strengthened. Pity him. He is an object for
pity. He has much to contend with, and will
have much to suffer tiirough life. Manage
him so, if possible, that he may get the mas-
tery of himself He will be under obligation
to you forever. " But he has insulted me
beyond endurance." Canst thou not bear
insult? What dost thou learn from the exam-
ple of the great Teacher? Who was ever
insulted more than he? Cannot bear to be
insulted ! Then I fear thou art not fit to keep
school. I do not mean that such indignities
should be passed by unnoticed ; but there is
no necessity of being thrown into a paroxysm
by them.

I once had a pupil, a young Virginian, a
mere stripling, in a fit of phrenzy, shake his
fist at me ; and another tell me bluntly he
would not do what I bid him do, or rather
requested him to do. In neither case did I
resort to blows, (not however from fear, but
from principle, and this the scholars perceiv-
ed ;) yet I think I maintained my authority in
both cases, and was troubled with no appre-
hension of the like recurring afterwards. I
would relate the whole minutely, were it not
that I fear extending this article too far. I
have in my mind a young lady, a former pu-
pil of mine, who has succeeded admirably in
teaching and managing a school, without re-
sorting to corporal punishment ; and yet she
has had some cases to dispose of exceedingly
trying. In her first school, and soon after
beginning, a rude boy said to her one day that
he would not mind her; that he could throw
her upon the floor; and he spit in her face
several times, and told her to go off about her
business. Have you ever met with any thing
more aggravating than this ? yet this young



woman sustained herself. The boy was brought
to submission and subordination ; and that too,
without the rod ! He became a very manage-
able pupil! How was it done? By being self-
possessed. By being firm and mild. Most
teachers would have thought this a case for
blows. The rage of an angry man will g^
down when he sees he cannot excite anger in
another. Perhaps it is the most difficult thing
in nature for a man to be mad alone.

Avoid getting into a conflict with a pupil in
presence of the school. Be sure you are al-
ways right. If a scholar is obstinate and
refuses to obey, be not provoked either to say
or to do things violent and indiscreet. It is
best to deler the case until recess, or the close
of the school. Be perfectly caln). Converse
with him, and endeavour to reclaim him to
duly. Point out to him plainly, kindly, firmly,
the position in which he stands. Urge upon
him such considerations as you may think
proper in themselves, and as may have weight
with him. Especially, let him understand
that you regard him now as a rebel against
the rightful authority of the school, and that
he will not be allowed to join his class again
at recitation, or enjoy his usual privileges,
until he returns to duly. If he relents, well ;
you have gained him. If he srill persists in
his rebellion, let him understand that nothing
but entire, unqualified submission will satisfy
you ; that he must utterly abandon all hope of
reconciliation and of enjoying again his privi-
leges as a pupil, on any other ground. Then,
atieclionately leave him for a time to his own
reflections. In the morning, ten to one, if the
matter has been managed discreetly, he will
be found all subdued, ready to confess his
wrong, and during all the time remaining,
doubly careful to do right. If he is still re-
bellious, do not give up your faith or your
hope ; break not out in violent bursts of pas-
sion. Let him perceive your regret at his
wrong doing ; in few words, exhort him to
review and repent of his folly. After this, let
him take his usual seat, or assign him a seat
separate from the others, reminding him that
though allowed to remain in school, he cannot
enjoy its privileges so long as he persists in
his rebellion. At the close of school, talk with
him again. Dismiss him with a solemn ad-
monition, and await the events of another
night. In the morning, if he return and say,
" I repent ;" forgive and receive him, even
though it be at the eleventh hour. That pu-
pil has been Air more effectually reclaimed,
than if he had been driven by blows into obe-
dience. More has been done for that boj', and
for the cause of education, than could possibly
have been done by any other treatment of the
case. He will remember it with gratitude as
long as he lives.



274

But let us look still further at this case.
" What if the child will not relent, but in his
obstinacy grows worse and worse ! Wiiat is to
be the ultimatum ?" The question must have
an answer ; and I reply : — It is a matter for
the teacher to determine, how long it is pro-
per to continue labouring with the rebellious
pupil ; whether one day, or one week. This
must depend upon the character of the boy;
the nature of his offence, and all the circum-
stances of the case. Whenever the teacher
is satisfied that there is no reasonable hope of
his relenting, then let him call the offender,
■privately to him, and in a kind manner inform
him that he must now quit the school ; but
that whenever he shall be willing to conform
^o school order, he will be gladly received
again. With this let him take his leave. It
is all but certain, that before the lapse of three
days, he will be found at the school-room door,
anxious to come in again, and on the required
terms.

Much, very much, depends upon the vian-
ner of dismissing a scholar. If you frown
upon him, scold at him, tell him to be gone,
— that you'll have no such obstinate, rebel-
lious scoundrel in your school ; and especially,
if you accompany all this with a cuff or a
kick, a la mode of by-gone days, he will go
away with malice in his heart, and nothing
but the authority of a parent will ever turn
his steps again to the school-rooin door. And
should he once more be put under your tuition,
he will do all safely in his power to cause you
trouble. But, by the other mode, you will
heap coals of fire on his head, and melt down
all his obstinacy. And now, my brother, is
not this better tiian to have thrashed him into
obedience, though it might have been effected
at the expense of a little strength, and a half
hour's time. Try it. Try it.

It is objected that, " There are in this slate
over 300U Public Schools. It is fair to sup-
pose that on this plan, one scholar from each
school, on an average, will be dismissed in the
course of the winter, for incorrigible obstinacy
and disobedience. Here, then, we shall have
within the limits of the commonwealth, a
troop of three thousand children, — boys run-
ning at large, and growing up without educa-
tion ! In the formation of future society, they
will make component parts, and give to it their
own texture and colouring. Fine materials,
indeed, for the formation of society ! I" In an-
swer to this objection, I would say, that we
calculate with much confidence, and much
reason too, that of those dismissed, at least
ninety per cent, will return and conduct well.
As a compensation for the loss of the rest, I
would mention the unspeakably better s|)irit
created in school, which affects so favourably
the thousands of young hearts that are there.
1 would no longer have it necessary to drive
children to school, and to lessons, and to duty,
by stripes. I would, if possible, make school
an attractive place ; one to which children



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