of the town and state, at the lower left-hand
corner of the larger card, as shown herewith.
Invitations to the Wedding.
HE following, are among the many
of the various styles of notes of invita-
tion to the
NEWARK, N,J,
to
wedding cere-
mony. The
form shown
here, is printed on paper
about the width, but a
little shorter than, com-
mercial note paper, the
wording being on the
lower half of the sheet.
In the center of the
upper half of the sheet
is the monogram, com-
posed of the initial let-
ters of the surnames of
the bride and groom,
blended together. This
monogram is also printed
upon the flap of the en-
velope containing the
invitation and cards.
The accompanying is the
note of invitation issued
by Mr. & Mrs. D. Col-
lins, on the occasion of
the marriage of their
daughter, M. Louise, to
Jay H. Sabray ; the cere-
mony taking place at
their residence. Two
cards accompany this
rote, one reading Mr. $
Mrs. Jay H. Sabray, the
other, M. Louise Collins.
Actual size of one form of Note of Invitation. This dotted line shows the fold.
n& A&fa&eie qtu
/ / f
AT THEIR HOME, ATLANTA, GA.
NOTES OF INVITATION TO WEDDINGS AND KECEPTIONS. 123
If desirous of giving information of the time
of return from the bridal tour, and an invita-
tion to receptions afterwards, the address is
omitted on the larger card, and a third card
may accompany the other two, worded as fol-
lows:
This style of invitation, printed on a fine card
about the size of a large envelope, is frequently
employed. If desirous of using colored card-
board, a light olive or pink tint is sometimes
admissible, though white is always in best
taste.
THOS. H. CPMMINGS. MARY C. BEXHAM.
'' ^-^=?:^-+. _/ v
AT THE
@f*au*fy, ^/^^
Sfa^c* yb, s>ofouM>
AFTBB DECEMBER 14, 1872,
WEDNESDAY EVE'G, MAR. 4O, 1872,
i
Cor. of Seventh and Clinton Sis. MILWAUKEE, WIS.
',
At Eight o'clock.
This style of invitation, requiring no cards, is
'requently used :
The following note, announcing," At Home,''
ifter October 15, requires no cards :
jpr
rP
HAP fsSf . gjf
H. D. MILES. MARY D. WILLIAMS.
t-^p'St. Paul, Minnesota. ~5_> *'**
e^o^R ^So iFr.=5=o
Cfjirtrpresfjptn-tanefjurcfj
/ff7~'/ / ff) /^T/V /
t.Jnuidaa'u tovenina; ^l)ec. s?%/i>; ToFtf*,
-A/T 8 O'CLOCK:.
GEORGE H. VANCE. ALICE D. SPENCER.
cmo-A-o-o,
AT FOUB O'CLOCK, F. 11.
At Home, after October 15th. No. 12 Oakland Street.
124
NOTES OF INVITATION TO WEDDINGS AND RECEPTIONS.
The cards are often made in this proportion,
and fastened with a ribbon, thus :
The following invitation is accompanied by
the cards shown above, fastened by a ribbon in
the center. The larger card bears the names of
Mr. and Mrs. James Wilson; the other, the
name of the bride, Angeline Sherman.
aneaue^'l tne /itecuule of uottl wotn/ianu at
f / / 7 / if
the
Of their Daughter, Angeline, Tuesday Eve'g, Apr. 23d, '72,
112 Clinton St., Boston.
Not unfrequently the cards are fastened at
the top, as shown in this illustration:
*
The succeeding invitation is issued by the
parents of the bride, the reception taking place
at their residence, after the ceremony at church.
As with the other invitations, this is also accom-
panied by the monogram.
HENRY D. BAND.
JENNIE L. HENDEBSON.
., O-
MARRIAGE CEREMONIES.
125
AVING resolved
upon marriage, the lady
will determine when the cere-
mony shall take place.
No peculiar form of cere-
mony is requisite, nor is it im-
perative that it be performed by a particular
person. In the United States, marriage is
regarded as a civil contract, which may be entered
into by a simple declaration of the contracting parties,
made in the presence of one or more witnesses, that they, the
said parties, do respectively contract to be husband and wife.'
In consequence of the recognized vast importance of mar-
riage to the parties contracting the same, long usage has estab-
lished the custom, almost universally, of having the ceremony perform-
ed by, or in presence of, a clergyman or magistrate.
To be entitled to contract marriage, the following requisites are necessary :
1st, That they be willing to marry ; 2d, That they be of sound mind ; 3d, That they
have arrived at the age allowed by law ; 4th, That neither of the parties is mar-
ried already to another who is living, and from whom such party has not obtained a divorce
from the bonds of matrimony ; and th, That the parties are not so nearly related by consan-
guinity, as to prohibit their marriage, by tho laws of the State in which the marriage is contrac-
ted.
126
THE MARKIAGE LICENSE.
In most of the States, the common law re-
quires that the male be fourteen and the female
twelve years of age, before the marriage can
take place. In certain States, seventeen for
males and fourteen for females ; in others, the
age for males is eighteen, for females, fourteen.
Formerly in certain Eastern States, parties in-
tending to marry were required by statute to re-
cord a notice of such intent with the town clerk
for three weeks, at the expiration of which time,
if no objection was interposed, the clerk was au-
thorized to give a certificate to that effect, and the
clergyman or magistrate was empowered to per-
form the ceremony. In various States, the law
requires that parties intending marriage shall
previously obtain from the city or town clerk, a
certificate of their respective names, occupa-
tions, ages, birth-places, and residences upon
receipt of which, any clergyman or magistrate
is authorized to perform the ceremony.
In several States of the Union, the consent
of the parents or guardians is required, before
the proper officer can issue a license, if the male
be under twenty-one years, or the female under
eighteen
In some of the States, a license to marry must
first be procured of the city, town, or county
clerk, empowering the clergyman or magistrate
to marry the contracting parties, which is word-
ed as follows :
JKarriagp
autAcliltd to Ac
J
&7ie Aec/ife tf tiie <Jrtate c/.. ................................................ to any. A
/ / ff C tf /
oJfaiiiaae, (gj^JZETlNti 9 j/ou ate fieletfu autoli>.cd to toin t'n t/ie fioh. ^ond<i o/ Q^/atlimcni-, and
if* i f ff f v C f*
to ce.ieiila.te the liteA ana celetncnieA o/ QMaliiaae, vetween jflflt. .....................................................................
and ffl, ................................................................................... , ateoleUna to t/te udua/ custom. and SamA o/ t/ie <Ptate c/
............................................................. , ut ytm ale teyuitect to ietutn tfiid &cen6e to *ne wit/un tAiltu dayd, Aom
t/i6 cc/ettlation of AticSt. Q^tfaUtaae } wttA a ^elti/icate o/ t/ie Aame, a/i/iended tAelete . and 6taned /u- you,
V <S CH / / ' jf f ff '
andel tiie Aenattu of v/n offltindle
/ <f f J
out Aaid woult and tSie $ea/ t/ieleo/. at Au office. ,
e' ee '
t'n daid ^cuntu, t/iid dau /.. _,
County Clerk.
State of
*"* .....
,
1 V o o *> ....................................................................................................
(EOUtttg. ) .......................................... _ ................. . .......... ,/ielefyceltfa t/iat on
................... day of.. ........................................................... ,, /<$*/ ....... , Q/ 'f'ot'nfd ' tn (^taUtaae,
........................ _, ana* $8i ....................................................... . ....................... _, aaieead/e to t/ie
iven t'n tne attove ^.t'cende, and tAe cudtomA and Jaivd o<f tfiiA <ftate.
f uiven unaei tn^ nand and Aeai, tnid
CEREMONY OF MARRIAGE AND MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE.
127
The Ceremony.
The license procured, the ceremony of mar-
riage may take place wherever it best suits the
convenience of the parties marrying, and may
be performed by a clergyman, justice of the su-
preme court, judge of an inferior court, justice
of the peace, or police justice ; one or more wit-
nesses being present to testify to the marriage.
The clergyman or magistrate may visit the
candidates for matrimony at a private residence,
hotel, hall, church, or other place ; or the par-
ties may call upon the clergyman at his resi-
dence, or visit the magistrate in his office, where
the rite may be performed. When the ceremo-
ny is conducted by the magistrate, the following
is the usual form.
Form of Marriage.
( The man and woman rising, (fie justice will say to the man ;)
" Will you have this woman to be your wedded wife, to live together
after God's ordiuauce, in the holy estate of Matrimony, to love her,
comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, and for-
saking all others, keep thee only unto her, so long as you both shall
live?"
( Tlien addressing the ivoman, the justice will say : )
" Will you have this man to be your wedded husband, to live togeth-
er after God's ordinance, in the holy estate of Matrimony, to love,
honor, and keep him, in bickness and in health, and forsaking all others
keep thee only unto him so long as you both shall live? "
(The parties answering in the affirmative, the justice will then instruct
them to join hands, and say :)
" By the act of joining hands you take upon yourselves the relation
of husband and wife, and solemnly promise and engage, in the pres-
ence of these witnesses, to love, honor, comfort, and cherish each other
as such, so long as you both shall live ; therefore, in accordance with
the laws of the State of , I do hereby pronounce you hus-
band and wife."
Short Form of Marriage.
( The justice will instruct the parlies to rise and join hands, and
then say : )
"By this act of joining hands yon do take upon yourselves the rela-
tion of husband and wife, and solemnly promise and engage, in the
presence of these witnesses, to love and honor, comfort and cherish
each other as such, as long as you both shall live; therefore, in accord-
ance with the laws of the State of , I do hereby pronounce
you husband and wife."
The form used by clergymen is essentially
the same, though the wording may vary slightly
to suit the occasion and conform to the rites of
the church under which the parties marry.
The marriage license is returned by the mag-
istrate or clergyman to the clerk that granted
it, for record. At the time of procuring the
license, however, the bridegroom or other per-
son should obtain a blank marriage certificate,
usually furnished by the clerk, which should
be filled by the clergyman or magistrate at the
close of the ceremony, certifying to tha^ mar-
riage of the parties ; which certificate should be
always preserved by the husband and wife, as
proof of marriage, if necessary, when they
have removed to other parts of the country.
The following is the form of the marriage
certificate :
Marriage
Certificate.
4<w%
That of. in the State of.... .and of. in the State of
were at in the said County, by me joined together in
G^H: o L IT^JM: j T IR/IIM: o usr Y ,^^)
i On the , day of .' , In the year of our Lord, One Thousand Eight Hundred and Seventy
IN PRESENCE OF
128
NOTICES OF MARRIAGE.
^Marriage Notices, etc.
^
SIDE from the entertainments of
guests at the residence of the bride,
the expenses of the marriage are
entirely borne by the groom, who
is understood to be the winner of
the prize. If the parties marrying
are wealthy and of undoubted
standing and respectability in so-
ciety, they can appropriately celebrate the nuptial
ceremony in an expensive manner, the occasion
being taken by the relatives and friends as an
opportunity for the making of every description
of present to the bride and groom. If, how-
ever, the parties move in the humbler walks of
life, an expensive bridal tour, and very great
display at the wedding, are not advisable. It is
much better for the newly wedded couple to
commence life in a manner so plain and modest
that succeeding years cannot fail to steadily in-
crease their wealth and give them better oppor-
tunities. People always more highly respect
those persons who steadily go upward, no matter
how slowly, than those that attempt a display
beyond their ability honestly to maintain.
To legally marry in the United States, only a
few incidental expenses are really necessary. Of
these, the license costs, in different States, from
one to two dollars, and the magistrate, for per-
forming the ceremony, is allowed by law to
charge two dollars. While no law regulates
the price, it is customary to quietly present the
clergyman five dollars or more, according to the
ability and liberality of the groom. In giving
notice of the marriage to the newspaper, it is
courtesy always to enclose, with the same, a
dollar bill.
The wording of the marriage notice will de-
pend upon circumstances. If the parties have
a large circle of acquaintances, to whom they
desire to offer an apology for not having invited
them to the wedding, they will announce, with
the notice, that no general invitation was ex-
tended, thus:
MARRIED.
LEONARD REYNOLDS. In this city, at the residence of the bride's
father, January 1, 1873, by the Rev. Chan. G. Robinson, rector of
Christ Church, Mr. Theron D. Leonard and Mrs. A. B. Reynolds,
daughter of Wm. Fairbanks, Esq., all of Philadelphia. No cards.
Other marriage notices, according to circum-
stances, will read as follows :
In this city, by the Rev. H. A. Henderson, CHARLES n. WILLIAMS
and MYBA B. COOLEY, both of Chicago.
On Tuesday, the 7th inst., by the Rev. Dr. Belmont, at the residence
of the bride's uncle, Harvey Baker, Esq., Cyrus E. Maynard, of New
York, and Miss Lizzie 11. Wuitworth, of Cleveland, Ohio.
On Thursday, January 20th, at the residence of Mr. Asa Sprague, 144
Mayberry St., Anton D. Miller, of St. Joseph, Mich., and Harriet A.
Sprague, of this city.
St. Joseph papers please copy.
At the Leland House, Springfield, 111., January 30. by the Rev. J. L.
Stoddard, Stephen M. Byron, of Detroit, Mich., and Carrie D. Paiiie,
of Springfield, 111.
On the evening of the 30th, at the Revere House, by Winfiold Gard-
ner, Miss Emma Brown to William Wedgewood, all of this city.
In this city, on Monday, at the residence of the bride's father, Mr. H.
A. Waldrou and Miss Agues E. Willett.
The ceremonies took place at the residence of Henry Wil-
lett, Esq., on Beverly Place, yesterday morning at nine o'clock,
only a select company of friends being present. The happy
couple departed at once on their wedding tour, with New York
as their main point of destination. Their visit will be protracted
until the middle of next month, when, upon their return, Mr.
Waldron will assume the secretaryship of the Great Western
Mutual Insurance Company, of this city, to which position he
has been recently called by the directors of the Company.
NOTES OF INVITATION.
129
Invitations to Receptions and Parties.
DECEIVE
At 8 o'clock.
AT EIGHT O'CLOCK.
liar.
. mi. ffi. ISartlett,
-^
S
At 8 1-2 o'clock.
<
THURSDAY EVENING, ^AN. 4TH, 1871.
- COMPLIMENTARY, n
, .
Mp^ Yourself and Ladies are Cordially Invited. ~J->
Committee of Arrangement*
D. O. LEWIS, WM. W. BROWN, T). B. SNOW,
). KING, CHAS. WILSON, II. E. Poxwra.
130
RECORD AND BIOGRAPHICAL SKETCHES OF THE FAMILY.
How to Prepare the Register; giving Names of the Family, Births, Marriages and Deaths.
URING LIFE, a carefully prepared
record of the family, which should
be arranged by the head of the
household, is of great convenience for
reference. This register should con-
tain the name, birth, marriage, and death
of each member of the family. It may be
kept in the Bible, on a paper prepared
especially for the purpose, suitable for framing, or
in any manner whereby the same may be preserved.
It may also contain brief biographical sketches of
members of the family.
N preparing the register, care should be
taken to give the names of the family in
full, the town and state where each was
born, and date of birth; the state and
town where each died, and date of death ;
town and state where each married, and
date, together with the name of the
officiating clergyman, or magistrate, and of one or
more witnesses to the marriage. In proving claims
to pensions, or heirship to estates, this is frequently
of great importance. Observe carefully the form
of record shown on the opposite page.
BIOGRAPHY I OF CHILDREN. oC
UARDIANS and parents are also
recommended to prepare in a book
of blank pages, made for the pur-
pose, a biographical sketch of each
child under their charge, noting pecul-
iarities of birth, attending physician, color
of hair, eyes, &c., when born ; strength of
constitution, subsequent disposition, age at
which the child first walks, talks, reads, writes, first
attends school, and so on upwards until the child
is able to take up the record itself.
'HE child's record should be made very
full and explicit for many reasons, the
principal being that it may be of great
service to the future biographer of the
child , while the physiologist may draw
an important lesson by a comparison be-
tween the habits of infancy and those
of mature years. This record will certainly be a
matter of value to the family, and like the infant-
picture, it will be of especial interest to the man and
woman as a daguerreotype of their early years.
FORM OF FAMILY RECORD.
131
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m- ^f*k. .fSrtN^t. ^h. ^^P-> . V-'' ^ '
EGISTEL
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
May 2, 1800, at Concord, N. H,
June 7, 1810, at Troy, N. Y.
Dec. 8, 1850, &t Rome, N. Y.
HENRY DANIEL BAKER.
MARY EMILY BAKER.
CHILDREN.
WILLIAM WARD BAKER.
IIIRAM KING BAKER.
WALTER HENRY BAKER.
MARY EMILY BAKER.
SARAH ADOLINE BAKER.
CIIAS. ALBERT DOW BAKER.
August 6, 1834, &t Rome, N. Y.
April 14, 1837, at Rome, N. Y.
July 2, 1839, at Rome, N. Y.
May 10, 1842, at Rome, N. Y.
Nov. 18, 1845, at Detroit, Midi.
Oct. 4, 1848, at Detroit, Mich.
June 9, 1862, at Detroit, Mich
April 17, 1869, at Rome, N. Y
Feb. 6, 1855, at Detroit Mich.
Ft I A. G-
By Whom Solemnized. Names of Witnesses.
DOOOOGOOOO
HENRY DANIEL BAKER
and
MARY EMILY MUNSON.
WILLIAM WARD BAKER
and
BERTHA JANE CORBETT.
WALTER HENRY BAKER
and
ALICE ANN BAILEY.
MARY EMILY BAKER
MYRON BURTON ELDRIDGE.
CHAS. A. D. BAKER
and
FLORENCE PERCY BRIGGS.
By the Rev. A. II. BUIJLING,
June 2, 1831,
At Troy, New York.
By the Rev. D. P. SMITH,
S; pt. 1, 1859,
At Saratoga Springs, N. Y.
By the R'v. ARTHUR BROWF
Si pt. 4, 1865,
At Rome, New York.
By the Rev. D. O. SMITH,
Aug. 16, 1805,
At Detroit, Michigan.
By WM. M. KELLOGG, J. P.,
March 4, 1872,
At St. Louis, Missouri.
( A. D. BAKER.
In Presence of < MAKY E. SHERMAN,
( CYNTHIA BENSON.
{ HANNAH E. HOLMBS,
In Present of < TIIOS. E. ANDREWS,
W. U. BURTON.
( D. R. NEWELL.
In Presence of < SELDEN MARSHALL,
I SUSAN MAYNARD.
( CAPT. O. D. KEMVLE,
In. Presence of < MALVINA SIMIVON,
( HARRIET PUTNAM.
( ANNA E, Moo HE.
In Presence of < CHAS. D. WEI.I.,
j ABIGAIL MINARD.
132
ANNIVERSARIES OF MARRIAGE.
Marriage Anniversaries,
GOLD, SILVER AND OTHER WEDDINGS.
ASHION has established the
custom, of late years, of cele-
brating certain anniversaries
of the marriage, these being
named as follows :
The celebration at the expi-
ration of the first year is called
the COTTON wedding ; at two years comes the
PAPER ; at three, the LEATHER ; at the close of
five years comes the WOODEN ; at the seventh
anniversary the friends assemble with the WOOL-
EN, and at ten years comes the TIN. At twelve
years the SILK AND FINE LINEN ; at fifteen the
CRYSTAL wedding. At twenty, the friends gather
with their CHINA, and at twenty-five the married
couple, that have been true to their vows for a
quarter of a century, are rewarded with SILVER
gifts. From this time forward, the tokens of
esteem become rapidly more valuable. At the
thirtieth anniversary, they are presented with
PEARLS ; at the fortieth, come the RUBIES ; dnd
at the fiftieth, occurs the celebration of a glo-
rious GOLDEN wedding. Beyond that time the
aged couple are allowed to enjoy their many
gifts in peace. If, however, by any possibility
they reach the seventy-fifth anniversary, they
are presented with the rarest gifts to be ob-
tained, at the celebration of their DIAMOND wed-
ding.
In issuing the invitations for celebrating these
anniversaries, it is customary to print them on
a material emblematical of the occasion. Thus,
thin wood, leather, cloth, tin-foil, silk, silver
and gold paper, and other materials are brought
into use.
Of course, those who accept of such an invi-
tation, and partake of the hospitalities of the
host and hostess, are expected to contribute
to the collection of gifts that will grace the oc-
casion.
The form of invitation for such an anniver-
sary is represented in the following :
QSILK WEDDIKLO \
S' S
COUNCIL BLUFFS, IOWA.
ai
INVITATIONS TO WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES.
133
Invitation to the Crystal Wedding.
Invitation to the China Wedding.
ROME,
N. Y.
Invitation to the Silver Wedding.
IE
<M~ iituifa uoti la tie Alcdent at J/ieii
ANNIVERSARY,
No. 700 Broadway, New York.
Ceremony at 8 o'clock.
1850 I 1870.
WILL RECEIVE THEIR FRIENDS AT THE
TWENTIETH ANNIVERSARY
OP THEIR
LONG BRANCH.
Invitation to the Golden Wedding.
OF THEIR MARRIAGE,
174 MAYWOOD ST., CHICAGO.
134 INVITATIONS TO PARTIES.
If Notes of Invitation to Parties
oJfr^i.
^A^^n^^ii OTES of invitation to
< Jf$n 1 ifiP/ a l ar e P ai 'ty are
l^^^^'^fe' usually printed and
^TJfJEpI ^) displayed in a style
^Pfeflf^. similar to the an-
^"7*1 icvr^ nexed, being always
(S$R|%) worded in the third
^A person. If written,
and among intimate friends, a more
familiar style may be adopted.
Invitations should be written or
printed upon a whole sheet of small
note-paper, and should be issued at
least a week before the time appointed
for the party, so that, if necessary,
a suitable dress may be obtained. For
a costume ball or masquerade, two
weeks is the usual time allowed for
preparation.
The letters R. S. V. P. are some-
Invitation to an Intimate Friend.
Mrs. Langford may write to her intimate friend, Miss
Burling, as follows :
// /?
:-? V'L-rl 4 'f '7 'J ,
/ / /
/^/- s / //// A
S/i/ -C- %/.-& ^O rt^ftt^C- ? ^'<<'2''2 a.-O - C.t.-Z4/
yt&.'t'Z-'tyS &4'l/ ^~si/ &-Z-'M'-4-c-fl'14/' -C-'ltsC.'M.'t.'M.-tZ/ 'M.-&-%^'. 'fritW'-Z'-Cws''
/ & f p
/// / /" ' / // / f ffi/ >
'* S * l f l ' t ^ _
/ /? . // @/?
-C4im... fl-^i-C^ -Vi'i l.-W.-'Z. 'IJ.-d-l'l't. CO - (4d't'M> 'l>l* - l.'l - ri ty&.'M. (/\{j'&
X/ J sfi / jt . # J>
S +t ' , 44 p*. / fa,
/
'frC&t> C'&Wl'&
{- f/,-0. frC^i, d^ fl t't<& J %^.
@)/2 . (~*ft fl /
pv
^~^y 'G'C^'Z'l&d't^'Clrf.fi (f^-^tf^C-^^t't'^t^'.
& p
times put at the end of a note. They
stand for the French phrase, " Re-
pondez s'il vous plait" an answer, if
you please. It is better, however,
when an answer is particularly
desired, to say, " An answer will
oblige."
It is courtesy to reply promptly to
a note of invitation requesting an
answer.
If no reply is requested and you
send no regrets, it is understood that
you accept the invitation.
Send invitations to persons in
your own city or neighborhood, by
your own messenger. It is regarded
a violation of etiquette to send them
by mail.
INVITATIONS TO PARTIES.
135
Invitation to a Lawn Soiree.
MR. & MRS. HARRINGTON.
MB. D. C. HAREINGTON.
Request the pleasure of -our company, at a Lawn Soiree, Friday eve-
ning, from half past se'Voi to half past teu o'clock, June 20th, 1872,
weather permitting.
R. S. V. P.
Invitation to an Evening Party.
Mrs. Langford requests the pleasure of Mr. and Mrs. Bell's company
on Thursday evening, 7th inst., at seven o'clock.
No. St., Dec. 1st.
Answer Accepting the Invitation.
Mr. and Mrs. Bell accept, with pleasure, Mrs. Langford's kind invi-
tation for Thursday evening, the 7th inst.
No, St., Dec. 2d.
Answer Declining the Invitation.