SELECTED AND ARRANGED
J.E. AND H.S.
FREDERICK A. STOKES COY.
First Edition, 2,000 copies, Oct., 1905.
Reprinted, 3,000 copies, Feb., 1906.
Second Edition, revised, 4,000 copies, Feb., 1907.
Third Edition, 3,000 copies, Feb., 1908.
matter of friendship is often
regarded slightingly as a mere
accessory of life, a happy chance
if one falls into it, but not as entering into
the substance of life. No mistake can be
greater. It is, as Emerson says, not a
thing of " Glass threads or frost-work,
but the solidest thing we know."
What does your anxiety do ? It does
not empty to-morrow, brother, of its sor-
row ; but ah ! it empties to-day of its
strength. It does not make you escape
the evil ; it makes you unfit to cope with
it if it comes. IAN MACLAREN.
If you wish to be miserable, think about
yourself, about what you want, what you
like, what respect people ought to pay you ;
and then to you nothing will be pure. You
will spoil everything you touch, you will
make misery for yourself out of every-
thing which Gods sends you ; you will be
as wretched as you choose.
You have a disagreeable duty to do at
twelve o'clock. Do not blacken nine and
ten and all between with the colour of
twelve. Do the work of each, and reap
your reward in peace. So when the
dreaded moment in the future becomes
the present you shall meet it walking in
the light, and that light shall overcome
its darkness. GEO. MACDONALD.
The good we can each of us accomplish
in this world is small. The good that all
men in all ages could accomplish if they
would is vast. But in order that this may
be done, each working being must serve
his own generation, and do his part to
render the next generation more efficient.
T. D. WOOLSEY.
They are slaves who fear to speak
For the fallen and the weak ;
They are slaves who will not choose
Hatred, scoffing, and abuse,
Rather than in silence shrink
From the truths they needs must think J
They axe slaves who dare not be
In the right with two or three.
Go m tfrienD.
God never loved me in so sweet a way
'Tis He alone who can such blessings
And when His love would new expression
He brought thee to me, and He said,
" Behold a friend."
Friendship, a dear balm
Whose coming is as light and music are
'Mid dissonance and gloom : a star
Which moves not "mid the moving
heavens alone ;
A smile among dark frowns : a beloved
A solitude, a refuge, a delight.
P. B. SHELLEY.
Only he who lives a life of his own can
help the lives of other men.
Be true to thy friend. Never speak of
his faults to another, to show thy own dis-
crimination ; but open them all to him,
with candour and true gentleness ; forgive
all his errors and his sins, be they ever so
many ; but do not excuse the slightest
deviation from rectitude. Never forbear
to dissent from a false opinion, or a wrong
practice, from mistaken motives of kind-
ness ; nor seek thus to have thy own
weaknesses sustained ; for these things
cannot be done without injury to the soul.
LYDIA MARIA CHILD.
True sympathy always purifies. It
cheers. It helps to right seeing. It
heals. It strengthens. It exalts and
brings one nearer to God. It puts evil
passions to sleep and awakens holy emo-
tions. It quickens not the worst things
but the best things in a man. It has in it
always a pulse of heavenly love. It never
aggravates a bad symptom. It never
accelerates a wicked course. It stills the
troubled waters. It rests and soothes the
aching heart. It makes a man hate the
mean and low, and love the good and high.
It takes one forward into companion-
ships which are above the stars. It is
more palatable than food ; it is more
refreshing than light ; it is more fragrant
than flowers ; it is sweeter than songs.
F. A. NOBLE.
The very ground and gist of a noble
friendship is the cultivation in common
of the personal inner lives of those who
partake in it, their mutual reflection of
souls and joint sharing of experience
inciting them to a constant betterment of
their being and their happiness.
Disappointments are wings that bear
the soul skyward.
Those who are gone you have. Those
who departed loving you love you still ;
and you love them always. They are not
really gone those dear hearts, and true
they are only gone into the next room ;
and you will presently get up and follow
them, and yonder door will be closed
upon you, and you will be no more seen.
WILLIAM MAKEPEACE THACKERAY.
There is after all something in those
trifles that friends bestow upon each other
which is an unfailing indication of the
place the giver holds in the affections. I
would believe that one who preserved a
lock of hair, a simple flower, or any trifle
of my bestowing, loved me, though no
show was made of it ; while all the pro-
testations in the world would not win my
confidence in one who set no value on such
Trifles they may be : but it is by such
that character and disposition are oftenest
revealed. WASHINGTON IRVING.
It has been truly said that to those who
love little, love is a primary affection ; a
secondary one to those who love much.
Be sure he cannot love another much who
loves not honour more. For that higher
affection sustains and elevates the lower
human one, casting round it a glory
which mere personal feeling could never
give. F. W. ROBERTSON.
Friendship hath the skill and observation
of the best physician ; the diligence and
vigilance of the best nurse ; and the tender-
ness and patience of the best mother.
The only way to have a friend is to be
one. R. w. EMERSON.
I hold that Christian grace abounds
Where charity is seen ; that, when
We climb to heaven, 'tis on the rounds
Of love to men.
J. G. WHITTIER.
I beg you, my dear friend, whatever be
your suffering, to learn first of all that not
to take your sorrow off is what God means,
but to put strength into you that you may
carry it. Be sure your sorrow is not
giving you its best, unless it makes you a
more thoughtful person than you have
ever been before. PHILLIPS BROOKS.
The only way to regenerate the world is
to do the duty which lies nearest to us,
and not to hunt after grand far-fetched
ones for ourselves. CHARLES KINGSLEY.
Do it immediately,
Do it with prayer,
Do it reliantly,
Casting off care ;
Do it with reverence,
Tracing His hand
Who hath placed it before thee
With earnest command.
Stayed hi omnipotence
Safe 'neath His wing,
Leave all resultings
" Doe ye nexte thynge."
Cultivate the thankful spirit ! It will
be to thee a perpetual feast. There is,
or ought to be, with us no such thing as
small mercies ; all are great, because the
least are undeserved. Indeed, a really
thankful heart will extract motive for
gratitude from everything, making the
most even of scanty blessings.
J. R. MACDUFF.
Out of the strain of the Doing,
Into the peace of the Done ;
Out of the thirst of Pursuing,
Into the rapture of Won ;
Out of the gray mist into brightness,
Out of pale dusk into dawn
Out of all wrong into Tightness,
We from these fields shall be gone.
" Nay," say the Saints, " not gone, but
Into Eternity's Harvest Home ! "
w. M. L. JAY.
In that unknown world in which our
thoughts become instantly lost, still there
is one object on which our thoughts and
imaginations may fasten, no less than our
affections ; that amidst the light, dark
from excess of brilliance, which surrounds
the throne of God, we may yet discern the
gracious form of the Son of Man.
Begin with a generous heart. Think
how you can serve others. Then you
shall ",find resources grow. Your own
portion shall not be left desolate. Strength
shall be shed through you. Do the
utmost with what you have, and it shall
go far enough. o. B. FROTHINGHAM.
Self-denial, for the sake of self-denial,
does no good ; self-sacrifice for its own
sake is no religious act at all. . . . Self-
sacrifice, illuminated by love, is warmth
and life, the blessedness and the only
proper life of man. F. w. ROBERTSON.
There is full compensation for failure in
every true life, and the highest, where the
struggle and the loss have been the deep-
est. JOHN KER.
All the past is shut up within us, and is a
sort of perpetual present. All the future
is before us, and though duty is a present
thing, it is constructed out of the past,
and runs endlessly into the future. We
thus have the past with its memories, the
present with its duties, and the future
with its anticipations one for wisdom,
one for action, and one for hope.
Each cloud has of silver a lining,
Though we may not see its light ;
The sun has not ceased its shining,
Though hidden awhile from our sight.
Be faithful, and active, and earnest ;
In idleness never sit down :
The better the dark cross you carry.
The brighter will sparkle your crown.
Always say a kind word if you can if
only that it may come in perhaps, with
singular opportuneness, entering some
mournful man's darkened room like a
beautiful firefly, whose happy convolu-
tions he cannot but watch, forgetting his
many troubles. ARTHUR HELPS.
To find the ideal life in the normal, you
must do two hard things get rid of the
world in your heart, and get rid of self of
thinking of yourself, and of feeling round
yourself. One thing is needful only one
and that one thing is Love.
A true friend unbosoms freely, advises
justly, assists readily, adventures boldly,
takes all patiently, defends courageously,
and continues a friend unchangeably.
True friends visit us in prosperity only
when invited, but in adversity they come
Acquaintance, born and nourished in ad-
versity, is worth the cherishing ; 'tis
proved steel which one may trust one's
Take heed of thy friends. A faithful
friend is a strong defence ; and he that
hath found such a one hath found a trea-
The friends thou hast, and their adop-
Grapple them to thy soul with hooks of
A slender acquaintance with the world
must convince every man that actions, not
words, are the true criterion of the attach-
ment of friends. GEORGE WASHINGTON.
Like warp and woof all destinies
Are woven fast,
Linked in sympathy like the keys
Of an organ vast.
Back to thyself is measured well
All thou hast given ;
Thy neighbour's wrong is present hell,
His bliss, thy heaven.
A common friendship who talks of a
common friendship ? There is no such
thing in the world. On earth no word is
more sublime. HENRY DRUMMOND.
A man should keep his friendships in
constant repair. DR. s. JOHNSON.
It is always good to know, if only in
passing, charming human beings. It re-
freshes one like flowers and woods and clear
brooks. GEORGE ELIOT.
Happiness is not perfected until it is
shared. JANE PORTER.
We are in God's hands, brother.
Friendship that flows from the heart
cannot be frozen by adversity, as the
water that flows from the spring cannot
congeal in winter. j. COOPER.
Love is the greatest of human affections,
and friendship the noblest and most refined
improvement of love. SOUTH.
What do we live for if it is not to make
life less difficult to each other ?
Jealousy is said to prove love it may do
so ; it certainly weakens it, and as cer-
tainly shows its wantingness in love's
strongest pillow trust. If we loved a
little more, we should not be jealous.
Indeed, jealousy is only a polite word
for the most subtle selfishness. If we
believe our friends are as good as we say,
how dare we wish to keep all their love for
ourselves ? Is it that we fear they are,
after all, not loving enough to love many
people ? And if love is the virtue of
virtues, how can true love show itself
by seeking to circumscribe our friends'
exercise of it ? Do we grudge them
their lovingness ? Or can we venture
to deprive others of some share of the
love which blesses us ? One ought
never to speak of the faults of one's
friends ; it mutilates them : they can
never be the same afterwards.
W. D. HOWELLS.
I can only urge you to prefer friendship
to all human possessions, for there is
nothing so suited to our nature, so well
adapted to prosperity or adversity. But
first of all I am of opinion that amongst
the virtuous friendship cannot exist. . . .
In the first place, to whom can life be
" worth living," as Ennius says, who does
not repose on the mutual kind feeling of
some friend ? What can be more delight-
ful than to have one to whom you can
speak on all subjects, just as to yourself ?
And adversity would indeed be difficult
to endure, without some one who would
bear it even with greater regret than
yourself. . . . Now the foundation of
that steadfastness and constancy which
we seek in friendship is sincerity. For
nothing is steadfast which is insincere.
How often a new affection makes a new
man ! The sordid, cowering soul turns
heroic. The frivolous girl becomes the
steadfast martyr of patience and ministra-
tion, transfigured by deathless love. The
career of bounding impulses turns into an
anthem of sacred deeds. E. H. CHAPIN.
Truthfulness, frankness, disinterested-
ness, and faithfulness are the qualities
absolutely essential to friendship, and
these must be crowned by a sympathy
that enters into all the joys, the sorrows
and the interests of the friend ; that
delights in all his upward progress, and
when he stumbles or falls, stretches out
the helping hand, and is tender and
patient even when it condemns.
MARY C. WARE.
That secrets are a sacred trust,
That friends should be sincere and just,
That constancy befits them ;
And observations on the case,
That savours much of commonplace,
And all the world admits them.
Beyond all wealth, honour, or even
health, is the attachment we form to noble
souls; because to become one with the
good, generous, and true, is to become
in a measure good, generous, and true
ourselves. DR. T. ARNOLD.
A pennyweight of love is better than a
hundredweight of law. Try it if there is a
feud in your family. c. H. SPURGEON.
Happiness does not depend on money,
or leisure, or society, or even on health ;
it depends on our relation to those we love.
No distance of place or lapse of time can
lessen the friendship of those who are
thoroughly persuaded of each other's
worth. ROBERT SOUTHEY.
There are times when we have had
enough even of our friends, when we begin
inevitably to profane one another, and
must withdraw religiously into solitude
and silence, the better to prepare our-
selves for a loftier intimacy.
Silence is the ambrosial night in the
intercourse of friends, in which their sin-
cerity is recruited and takes deeper root.
The language of friends is not words, but
meanings. It is an intelligence above
language. H. D. THOREAU.
The man that hails you Tom or Jack,
And proves by thumps upon your back
How he esteems your merit,
Is such a friend that one had need
Be very much his friend indeed
To pardon or to bear it.
For every one who is living a life at all
worth the living, a liberal margin of un-
invaded leisure is absolutely essential to
the reception of energy from the world
beautiful. One must listen if he would
hear the voice of the gods. One must
hold himself in receptive conditions if he
would receive from the spiritual side of
life. LILIAN WHITING.
The love for one, from which there doth not
Wide love for all, is but a worthless thing,
j. R. LOWELL.
Friendship is the highest degree of per-
fection in society. MONTAIGNE.
Friendship is a seed
Needs tendance. You must keep it free
Nor, if the tree has sometimes bitter fruit,
Must you for this lay axe unto the root.
W. GILMORE SIMMS.
The more we love, the better we are ;
and the greater our friendships are, the
dearer we are to God. JEREMY TAYLOR.
I think that the two things above all
others that have made men in all ages
relieve in immortality apart, so far as we
know, from any revelation save that which
is written on the human heart have
been the broken loves and broken friend-
ships of the world.
Men could not believe that this young
life, broken off so suddenly, was done for
ever. It suggested its own continu-
ance. Instinctively friendship triumphed
over the grave. Love was too strong for
death. PHILLIPS BROOKS.
Those who have loved longest love best.
Nothing so much shows what a human
being is in moral advancement as the
quality of his love.
HARRIET BEECHER STOWE.
Reason is the torch of friendship, judg-
ment its guide, tenderness its aliment.
If it were expediency that cemented
friendships, expediency when changed
would dissolve them ; but because one's
nature can never change, therefore true
friendships are eternal. CICERO.
The old year is fast slipping back
behind us. We cannot stay it if we would.
We must go on and leave our past. Let us
go forth nobly. Let us go as those whom
greater thoughts and greater deeds await
beyond. PHILLIPS BROOKS.
He that is choice of his time will be
choice of his company, and choice of his
actions. JEREMY TAYLOR.
The noblest life is the life that loves,
that gives, that loses itself, that over-
flows, as it were, irrigates the great fields
of human anxiety and toil ; the warm,
hearty, social, helpful life : the life that
cheers and comforts, and sustains by its
serenity and patience and gratitude.
Friendship is the greatest bond in the
world. JEREMY TAYLOR.
Commend me to the friend that comes
When I am sad and lone,
And makes the anguish of my heart
The suffering of his own ;
Who calmly shuns the glittering throng
At pleasure's gay levee,
And comes to gild a sombre hour
And gives his heart to me.
He hears me count my sorrows o'er,
And when the task is done
He freely gives me all I ask
A sigh for every one.
He cannot wear a smiling face
When mine is touched with gloom,
But, like the violet, seeks to cheer
The midnight with perfume.
Commend me to that generous heart
Which, like the pine on high.
Uplifts the same unvarying brow
To every change of sky :
Whose friendship does not fade away
When wintry tempests blow,
But like the winter's icy crown,
Looks greener through the snow.
He flits not with the flitting stork
That seeks a southern sky,
But lingers where the wounded bird
Hath laid him down to die.
Oh such a friend ; he is in truth,
Whate'er his lot may be,
A rainbow on the storm of life,
An anchor on its sea. ANON.
Once let friendship be given that is
born of God, nor time nor circumstance
can change it to a lessening ; it must be
mutual growth increasing trust, widening
faith, enduring patience, forgiving love,
unselfish ambition, and an affection built
before the Throne which will bear the
test of time and trial.
Life to be rich and fertile must be re-
inforced with friendship. It is the sap that
preserves from blight and withering ; it is
the sunshine that beckons on the blossom-
ing and fruitage ; it is the starlight dew
that perfumes life with sweetness and
besprinkles it with splendour ; it is the
music-tide that sweeps the soul, scattering
treasures ; it is the victorious and blessed
leader of integrity's forlorn hope ; it is the
potent alchemy that transmutes failure
into success ; it is the hidden manna that
nourishes when all other sustenance fails ;
it is the voice that speaks to hopes all
dead, " Because I live, ye shall live also."
For the loftiest friendships have no com-
mercial element in them : they are
founded on disinterestedness and sacri-
fices. They neither expect nor desire a
return for gift or service. Amid the
tireless breaking of the billows on the
shores of experience, there is no surer
anchorage than a friendship that " bear-
eth all things, believeth all things, hopeth
SARAH B. COOPER, in Overland Monthly^
True happiness consists not in the mul-
titude of friends, but in the worth and
choice. DR. JOHNSON.
A faithful friend is better than gold a
medicine for misery, an only possession.
Surely, the only true knowledge of our
fellow-man is that which enables us to
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feel with him which gives us a fine ear
for the heart pulses that are beating
under the mere clothes of circumstances
Does friendship really go on to be more
a pain than a pleasure ? I doubt it ; for
even hi its deepest sorrows there is a joy
which makes ordinary pleasure a very
poor, meaningless affair ; no, no, we need
never be scared from the very depths of
friendship by its possible consequences.
The very fact of loving another more than
yourself is in itself such a blessing that it
seems scarcely to require any other, and
puts you in a comfortable position of
From Caroline Fox's Journal.
A Friend it is another name for God,
Whose love inspires all love is all in all.
Profane it not, lest lowest shame befall !
Worship no idol, whether star or clod !
Nor think that any friend is truly thine
Save as life's closest link with Love Divine.
My treasures are my friends.
If thought unlock her mysteries,
If friendship on me smile,
I walk in marble galleries,
I talk with kings the while.
Great friendships, great duties, and noble
purposes make man seem a part of the
very world itself.
What a thing friendship is
World without end !
Misunderstandings and neglect cause
more mischief in the world than even
malice and wickedness.
F. W. ROBERTSON.
Sweet friends ;
Man's love ascends
To finer and diviner ends
Than man's mere thought e'er compre-
hends. SIDNEY LANIER.
After friendship it is confidence, before
friendship it is judgment. SENECA.
A friend whom you have been gaining
during your whole life, you ought not to
be displeased with in a moment. A stone
is many years becoming a ruby ; take care
that you do not destroy it in an instant
against another stone. SAADI.
Human spirits are only to be drawn
together and held together by the living
bond of having found something in which
they really do agree.
The heart is not a treasury which is im-
poverished by giving, but a power which
is strengthened and enriched by loving.
The place where two friends first met
is sacred to them all through their friend-
ship, all the more sacred as their friend-
ship deepens and grows old.
The friendship I have conceived will
not be impaired by absence ; but it may
be no unpleasing circumstance to brighten
the chain by a renewal of the covenant.
Such a friendship, that through it we
love places and seasons ; for as bright
bodies emit rays at a distance, and flowers
drop their sweet leaves on the ground
around them, so friends impart favour
even to the places where they dwell.
With friends even poverty is pleasant.
Words cannot express the joy which a
friend imparts ; they only can know who
have experienced. A friend is dearer than
the light of heaven, for it would be better
for us that the sun were extinguished than
that we should be without friends.
Take heed of thy friends. A faithful
friend is a strong defence, and he that hath
found such a one hath found a treasure.
If a man does not make new friendships
as he advances through life, he will soon
find himself left alone. A man should
keep his friendships in constant repair.
Friendship is a word the very sight of
which in print makes the heart warm.
Constant and solid, whom no storms can
Nor death unfix, a right friend ought to