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Greene, Constance C. A Girl Called Al. Illus. Byron Barton. New York: Viking, 1969,
Pb., ages 11-up. Alexandra's mother and father are divorced. She puts on a show of
not caring but is unhappy. Her father sends her money but no love; she keeps look-
ing for substitutes for hhn.

Gripe, Maria. The Night Daddy. Illus. Harold Gripe. New York: Delacorte Press, 1971,
Pb. Dell, ages 8-up. This is the story of the friendship between a girl and a writer
who is hired to stay with her at night while her mother works as a nurse. The setting
is Sweden.

Hazen, Barbara S. Two Homes to Live In. New York: Human Sciences Press, 1978, ages
8-up. A little girl explains how she came to terms with her parents' divorce.

Jayarti, Amber. Silas and the Mad-Sad People. Stanford, CA: New Seed Press, 1981,
ages 4-8. Silas Rain Rivers reacts to his parents fighting emd separation with
sadness and anger. Silas' parents help him cope with his feelings.



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Johnson, Annabel and Edgar. The Grizzly. Illus. Gilbert Riswald. New York: Harper &
Row, 1964. Pb. Scholastic, ages 9-up. David has nightmares about his father. He
has not seen his father for a long time and is afraid of him. David learns to like his
father and brings his separated parents back together again. This solution may
raise hopes that parents will get back together again.

Kerr, M.E. The Son of Someone Famous. New York: Harper & Row, 1974, ages 12-up.
Adam's father has been twice married unsuccessfully. The father's relationships
with women are dreadful. Adam's problems are caused not by the fact of divorce
but by the problems that he and his parent have among themselves.

Kindred, Wendy. Lucky Wilma. New York: Dial Press, 1973, ages 4-8. Wilma and her
father, Charhe, spend every Saturday together. At the end of each Saturday, Wilma
goes home to her mother. The book demonstrates that children need not be
miserable because of parents' divorcing.

Klein, Norma. Taking Sides. New York: Pantheon, 1974, ages 9-up. After her parents'
remarriage and second divorce, Nell and her brother Uve with their father in New
York. The book consists of the observations and reflections of Nell as her life
changes and progresses. This book is one of the few in which there is the recognition
that the father may be better at nurturing children than the mother is.

LeShan, E. What's Going to Happen to Me? When Parents Separate or Divorce. New
York: Four Winds Press, 1978. Elementary and middle grades. Tliis story is a fac-
tual account of events which happen before, during and after a divorce.

Lexau, Joan. Emily and the Klunky Baby and the Next-Door Dog. Illus. Martha Alexan-
der. New York: Dial Press, 1972, ages 3-8. A little girl resents her Little brother and
is upset that her divorced mother cannot pay more attention to her, so she attempts
to run away to her father's house.

Lexau, Joan. Me Day. Illus. Robert Weaver. New York: Dial Press, 1971, ages 3-8. Rafer
has an unhappy birthday until his divorced father comes to spend the whole day
with him as a surprise. The reader gets the feeling that the father does not really
care about his family.

Mann, Peggy. My Dad Lives in a Downtown Hotel. lUus. Richard Cuffari. Garden City,
NY: Doubleday, 1973. Pb. Avon, ages 8-12. Joey blames himself for his parents'
divorce; but after spending time with his father, talking more with his mother, and
finding a friend who also has no father hving at home, Joey accepts the situation
more happily.



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Mazer, Harry. Guy Lenny. New York: Delacorte F*ress, 1971. Pb. DeU, ages 9-12. Twelve-
year-old Guy feels betrayed by his father, who wants to marry another woman
rather than keep him. Guy eventually must live with his mother, who has come back
to get him after having deserted him about seven years before. This story presents
reedistic dilemmas for families involved in divorce.

Mazer, Norma Fox. /, Trissy. New York: Delacorte Press, 1971. Pb. Dell, ages 9-12. The
story of an imaginative girl who blames her mother for her parents' divorce. Even-
tually she begins to see herself and each of her parents in a realistic, individual hght.
Her parents' understanding provides a base for her to build a more mature and
responsible way of behaving.

Newfield, Marcia. A Book forJodan. Illus. Diane de Groat. New York: Atheneum, 1975,
ages 7-11. Jodan is heartsick at her parents' divorce. Though they both reassure her
that they love her, she is very unhappy. She and her mother move to California; her
father remains in Massachusetts. This story demonstrates the effort that goes into
a constnictive relationship.

Norris, Gunilla. Lillian. New York: Atheneum, 1968, ages 8-12. LilHan's parents divorce,
and she is afraid her mother will stop loving her now that she is so busy with her
job. With her mother's help, Lillian grows more self-reliant, self-confident, and less
fearful.

Paris, Lena. Mom is Single. Cliicago: Children's Press, 1980, ages 9-up. A young boy
describes some of the good and bad aspects of U\'ing with his single working
mother.

Pevsner, Stella. A Smart Kid Like You. New York: Seabury Press, 1975, ages 9-up.
Nina's parents are divorced. She discovers when she enters junior high that her
math teacher is her father's new wife. She and her friends harass the teacher until
good sense prevails. Nina's father helps her adjust to a new situation. A realistic
view of the dilemmas arising from divorce and remarriage.

Piatt, Kin. Chloris and the Creeps. Philadelphia: Chilton, 1973. Pb. Dell, ages 12-up.
Chloris cannot accept her parents' divorce or her father's subsequent suicide. She is
hateful and destructive to her mother, her mother's new husband, and their home
because she thinks of her father as a kind of superman. Through therapy, sensitive
response, and patience, Chloris' mother, sister and stepfather nurture her back to a
positive set of behaviors.



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Richgirds, Arlene and Irene Willis. How To Get It Together When Your Parents
Are Coming Apart. New York: Bantam Books, 1977. This book is geared toward
teenagers and is especially strong in the section dealing with questions of custody.

Robson, Bonnie. My Parents Are Divorced, Too. New York: Everest House, 1979,
adolescents. Teenagers talk about their experiences and how they learned to cope.

Rofes, Eric (Ed). The Kids' Book of Divorce: By, For and About Kids. Lexington, MA:
Lewis Publishing Co., 1981. This book is written by pre-teens and discusses per-
sonal feelings, experiences and issues that should be considered by children with
divorced parents.

Sachs, Msirilyn. The Bear's House. Illus. Louis Glanzman. Garden City, NY: Doubleday,
1971, ages 9-12. When Frsui Ellen's father deserts the family, her mother totally col-
lapses. The elder brother assumes direction of the family, but it does not work.
Eventually a teacher, recognizing the extremity of the situation, takes steps to
salvage their lives.

Sinberg, Janet. Divorce is a Grown-Up Problem. New York: Avon Books, 1978, ages
4-up. The book is designed to help a child understand what has happened to his/her
family. It is a lap book, one to be read aloud by a parent.

Si tea, Linda. Zachary's Divorce, pp. 124-27 in Free to Be You and Me. New York: Mc-
Graw-Hill, 1974, all ages. The aftermath of divorce is described through the eyes of
Zachary, a young boy. He feels as if he has been divorced, although his mother
assures him that it is his parents who divorced each other. Zachary 's mother is sup-
portive, understanding, and coping.

Stanek, Muriel. / Won't Go Without a Father. Illus. Eleanor Mill. Chicago: Albert Whit-
man, 1971, ages 6-9. Steve is angry and jealous of anyone who has a father, but,
with the support of his uncle and grandfather, he learns to become less defensive
and more accepting of his family situation. He also recognizes that he is not alone in
this situation.

Stenson, Janet Sinberg. Now I Have a Stepparent and It's Kind of Confusing. New York:
Avon Books, 1979, ages 4-up. The book is designed for parents and stepparents to
read to or with their children. It was written to help children, parents, and step-
parents better understand some of the issues they face.



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Stolz, Mary. Leap Before You Look. New York: Harper & Row, 1972. Pb. Dell, ages
12-up. Jimmie adores her father before her parents' divorce and resents his remar-
riage afterward. Living with her mother, brother, grandmother and aided by her
friend Chris, who is bothered by several divorces in her family, Jimmie gradually
adjusts and reconciles herself with her father.

Surowiecki, Sandra Lucas. Joshua's Day. Chapel Hill, NC: Lollipop Power, 1972, ages
3-6. Joshua, who lives with liis mother, goes to a day care center while his mother
works. She is coping well without a husband, and Joshua seems fine.

Thomas, lanthe. Eliza's Daddy. New York: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, 1976, ages 8-up.
The story of a young girl who decides to meet her Daddy's daughter in his new mar-
riage.

Wagner, Jane. J.T. Photographs by Gordon Parks. New York: Van Nostrand Reinhold,
1969. Pb. Dell, ages 8-13. J.T. reacts very destructively to his father's departure.
His mother tries to maintain the family but has difficulties. A cat, his grandmother,
and the sympathetic storekeeper help set J.T. back on a constructive track.

Zolotow, Charlotte. A Father Like That. lUus, Ben Shecter. New York: Harper & Row,
1971, ages 3-8. A little boy, whose own father "went away" before he was born, tells
his mother his dreams of the ideal father. His mother replies that, in case he never
gets that father, he can be that father someday. The boy uses his fantasy to inform
his mother about the things she does that bother him.

Part II. Books for Parents & Children Together



Grollman, Earl. Talking About Divorce. A Dialogue Between Parent and Child. Boston:
Beacon Press, 1976, K-young adult.

Hazen, Barbara Shook. Two Homes to Live In. New York: Human Sciences Press, 1977,
grades 4-8. A child's eye view of divorce.

Sinberg, Janet. Divorce is a Grown-up Problem. New York: Avon, 1978. For young chil-
dren and their parents.

Stein, Sarah. On Divorce. New York: Walker & Co., 1979. Part of the "Open Family
Series" of books for parents and children together.



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Part III. Books for Parents & Teachers

Atkin, Edith and Estelle Rubin, Part-Time Father, New York: Signet Books, 1977. An
excellent book for fathers who have visitation rights.

Berman, Claire. Making it as a Stepparent: New Roles/New Rules. New York: Doubleday
and Co., 1980. A down-to-earth, practical book dealing with such topics as "The
Blended, Merged, Combination, His and Hers Stepfamily," "S-E-X," "The Visitors
or Weekend Family."

BesseU, Harold and Palomares Uvaldo. Methods in Human Development— Theory
Manual. Magic Circle Materials, San Diego, CA: Human Dev. Training Institute,
1973.

Borba, Michelle and Craig. Self-Esteem: A Classroom Affair. 101 Ways to Help Children
Like Themselves. Minneapolis, MN: Winston Press, 1978.

Briggs, Dorothy. Your Child's Self-Esteem. NY: Doubleday, 1970.

Canfield, Jack and Harold Wells. 101 Ways to Enhance Self-Concept in the Classroom:
A Handbook for Teachers and Parents. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-HaU, 1976.

Cassidy, Robert. What Every Man Should Know About Divorce. Washington, D.C.: New
Republic Books, 1977. Offers practical advice and emotional support for the di-
vorced man.

Committee on the Family: Group for the Advancement of Psychiatry. Divorce, Child
Custody and the Family. San Francisco: Jossey Bass Inc., 1981. Research and legal
issues around divorce and custody.

Despert, J. Louise Children of Divorce. Garden City, NY: Doubleday, 1962. Pb, Points
out ways of safeguarding the children; advises parents; discusses problems and lists
resources.

Dinkmeyer, D. Developing Understanding of Self and Others (DUSO). American Guid-
ance Service, Circle Pines, MN. K-4 program, revised 1982.

Galper, Miriam. Joint Custody and Co-Parenting. Philadelphia, PA: Running Press,
1980. Gives author's experiences and tips regarding ways to establish joint paren-
ting of children despite divorce.



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Gardner, Richard A., M.D. The Parents' Book About Divorce. New York: Bantam
Books, 1977. A practical,helpful book which includes a discussion of joint custody.

Gatley, Richcird H., Ph.D. Single Father's Handbook. New York: Anchor Books, 1979.
The assumption in this book is that fathers are separated from their children as well
as from their wives. It is a helpful guide on how to be with your children on a part-
time basis.

Gettleman, Susan and Janet Markowitz. The Courage to Divorce. New York: Ballantine
Books, 1975. An excellent book which challenges assumptions about divorce made
by mental health professionals, the courts, and the media.

Gordon, Thomas. Parent Effectiveness Training. NY: Peter Wyden, 1970.

Gordon, Thomas. Teacher Effectiveness Training. NY: Peter Wyden, 1974.

Grollman, Earl E. (ed.). Explaining Divorce to Children. Boston: Beacon Press, 1972.
Compilation of articles about divorce. Includes different experts' social and
religious points of view and one chapter on explaining divorce to children.

Haley, B. "The Fractured Family in Adolescent Literature," English Journal, Vol. 63,
No. 2 (Feb, 1974), pp. 70-72. An annotated bibliography of books for adolescents
concerning adolescents who have single parents because of death, divorce, or
separation.

Harmin, Merrill, Howard Kirschenbaum and Sidney Simon. Clarifying Values Through
Subject Matter: Applications for the Classroom. Minneapolis, MN: Winston Press,
1973.

Klein, Carole. The Single Parent Experience. New York: Walker, 1973. Pb. Avon. Dis-
cusses the person who is a single parent by choice. Considers the situation of single
parenthood objectively and realistically.

Krantzler, Mel. Creative Divorce: A New Opportunity for Personal Growth. New York:
New American Library, 1975. Outlines a process from the death of a relationship,
through a period of mourning, to an ultimate rebirth of the individual.

Mindey, Carol. The Divorced Mother. New York: McGraw-Hill, 1969. Writes as a di-
vorcee from her own experiences as well as from reading. Poses questions for women
to consider concerning their lives after divorce; provides several sources of informa-
tion and help.



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Polliwog: A Personal Development Program with Values and Reading Readiness Skills
for Young Children. Minneapolis, MN: Winston Press, 1976.

Roman, Mel and William Haddad. The Disposable Parent: The Case for Joint Custody.
New York: Ilolt, Rinehart and Winston, 1978. This book is geared to parents as well
as to professionals in the legal and counseling fields and speaks to the need for
changes in the legal system to support joint-custody arrangements.

Salk, Lee. What Every Child Would Like Parents to Know About Divorce. New York:
Harper and Row, 1978. Information to help parents undergoing a separation or
divorce deal effectively with their children.

Schlesinger, Benjamin. The One-Parent Family Perspectives and Annotated Bibli-
ography. Toronto: University of Toronto Press, 1969. Contains several essays on
single parents and their situation. Valuable primarily because of extensive an-
notated bibliography.

Simon, Sidney, Leland Howe and Howard Kirschenbaum. Values Clarification: A Hand-
book of Practical Strategies for Teachers and Students. NY: Hart, 1972.

Spivack, G. and M. Shure. Social Adjustment of Young Children: A Cognitive Approach
to Solving Real-Life Problems. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1974.

Steinzor, Bernard. When Parents Divorce. New York: Pantheon, 1969. Pb. Pocket Books
Talks about the advantages that divorce brings to children and makes suggestions
about the separation agreement concerning the children. Suggests practical ways of
carrying out the divorce agreements and gives direct advice for maintaining rela-
tionships.

Stevens, J., and M. Mathews, eds. Mother/Child, Father/Child Relationships. Washing-
ton, D.r!.: National Association for the Education of Young Children, 1978. In-
cludes reviews of reseai'ch regarding father absence, divorce, bonding, etc.

Turow, R. Daddy Doesn't Live Here Anymore. Garden City, NJ: Anchor Books, 1978.
Discusses the emotional effects of divorce upon children and suggests ways of help-
ing them adjust to a disrupted family situation.

Wallerstein, Judith S. and Joan Berlin Kelly. Surviving the Break-up: How Children and
Parents Cope with Divorce. New York: Basic Books, 1980. This big book is the
result of a five-year post-divorce study of 60 families in Cahfomia. The authors
found that the adjustment of the child depends more on what happens after the
divorce than in the pre-divorce family.



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Wheeler, Michael, Divided Children: A Legal Guide for Divorcing Parents. New
York: W.W. Norton, 1980. This book deals prim£irily with the legal aspect of
custody.

Wolf, Anna W.M., and Lucille St^in. The One Parent Family. Public Affairs Pfunphlet
287. Public Affairs Committee and the Child Study Association of America, 1959.
Presents problems of the single pgirent in the form of questions. Then considers
solutions and advice. Advice is sensible and free of guilt-laying. Useful even now,
seventeen years after publication.

Women in Transition, Inc. Women in Transition: A Feminist Handbook on Separation
and Divorce. New York: Charles Scribner's Sons, 1975. Comprehensive guide cover-
ing emotional supports, children in transition, what the law says, the economic
realities of separation and divorce, education resources, mental health, physical
health care, and consumer protection information.

Woolley, Persia.r^e Custody Handbook. New York: Summit Books, 1979. A comprehen-
sive survey of all child custody eirrangements. Ms. Wooley clearly prefers what she
calls "shared custody." She tells why and delineates the steps parents and children
need to take in order for it to work out.

Part IV. Articles for Professionals

Anthony, E.J. "Children at Risk from Divorce: A Review." The Child in His Family,
ed. E.T. Anthony and C. Koupernils, New York: Wiley, 1974.

Cantor, D.W. "School-Based Groups for Children oi DWorce." Journal of Divorce, (1977),
pp. 183-187.

Derdeyn, A.P. "Children in Divorce: Intervention in the Phase of Separation." Pedmtncs
60, 1977, pp. 20-27.

Hetherington, E.M., M. Cox, R. Cox. "Divorced Fathers." The Family Coordinator, 1976,
pp. 417-429.

Hozman, T.L. and D.J. Froiland. "Children: Forgotten in Divorce." Personnel and Guid-
ance Journal, 5, 1977, pp. 530-533.

Jacobson, D.S. "The Impact of Marital Separation/Divorce on Children: Parent-Child
Separation and Child Adjustment." Jouma/ of Divorce, 1, 1978, pp. 341-360.



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Jones, F.N. "The Impact of Divorce on Children." Conciliation Courts Review, 15, 1977,
pp. 25-29.

Kelly, J.B. and J.S. Wallerstein. "Brief Interventions with Children in Divorcing Fami-
Ues." American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 47, 1977, pp. 23-29.

Kelly J.B. and J.S. Wallerstein. "The Effects of Parental Divorce: Experiences of the
Child in Early Latency." American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 46, 1976, pp. 20-32.

Magrab, P.R. "For the Sake of the Children: A Review of the Psychological Effects of
Divorce.'' Journal of Divorce, 1, 1978, pp. 233-245.

McDermott, J.F. "Parental Divorce in Early Childhood." American Journal of Psychia-
try, 124, 1968, pp. 1424-1432.

Norton, A.J. and P.C. GUck. "Marital Instability: Past, Present and Future." Journa/ of
Social Issues, 32, 1976, pp. 5-20.

Nye, F.I. "Child Adjustment in Broken and in Unhappy Unbroken Homes." Marriage
and Family Living, 19, 1957, pp. 356-361.

Wallerstein, J.S. and J.B. Kelly. "Divorce Counseling: A Community Service for Fami-
nes in the Midst of Divorce." American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 47, 1977, pp.
4-22.

Wallerstein, J.S. and J.B, Kelly. "The Effects of Parental Divorce: Experience of the Pre-
school Child." JoumaZ of Child Psychiatry, 14, 1975, pp. 600-616.

Wallerstein, J.S. and J.B. Kelly. "The Effects of Parental Divorce: Experience of the
Child in L^ter Latency." American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 46, 1976, pp.
256-269.

Westman, J.C. and D.W. Cline. " Role of Child Psychiatry in Divorce." Archives of Gen-
eral Psychiatry, 23, 1970, pp. 416-420.

Wilkinson, G.S. and R.T. Beck. "Children's Divorce Groups." Elementary School Guid-
ance and Counseling, 26, 1977, pp. 204-213.



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Part V. Journals

Journal of Divorce. Editor: Esther O. Fisher. Haworth Press, 174 Fifth Ave., New York,
NY 10010.

The Single Parent: The Journal of Pgirents Without Partners, Inc. Editor: Barbara
Chase. Parents Without Partners, Inc., International Headquarters, 7910 Wood-
mont Ave., Bethesda, MD 20014.



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