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He died December 3, 1898, leaving a widow and children.


This son graduated from the Hartford High school in
1884; from Brown University in 1888; from Rochester
Theological Seminary in 1891 ; and has been pastor of the
Lake Avenue Baptist church of Rochester, since 1891.
When he assumed this pastorate, the membership of the
church was a little short of five hundred; it is now a little
over eleven hundred. He is an able preacher, and beloved
as a pastor. Bible school work has always been a promi-
nent feature in the church, and the school is one of the
largest in the city, and, indeed, in the Baptist denomina-
tion in New York state. He has also interested himself
as a citizen, and has been influential in the change of the
Rochester public school system from one that was no-
toriously bad, to one holding rank among the very best



in the country. One of his ambitions at the beginning of
his ministry was, to be known as a man's man, and such
he has proved to be in the highest meaning of that term.
On June 28, 1891, he was married to Florence Isa-
belle Newell, of Providence, Rhode Island, and they have
four children, born as follows: Eric Newell, May 26,
1892; Ethel Wilbur, August 19, 1893; Myra Seymour,
March 3, 1895; and Harold Robinson, August 27, 1896.
He received the degree of Doctor of Divinity from the
University of Rochester, June 19, 1901. He received the
33d and last degree of Masonry from the Supreme
Council of the Ancient Accepted Scottish Rite, on Septem-
ber 17, 1907. Mr. Barbour is very felicitous on Memorial
day occasions. His address at Rochester this year was
on the theme. The Immortal Words of President Lincoln
at Gettysburg.


Mr. Barbour graduated from Providence, Rhode
Island, high school in 1887; from Brown University in
1 891; and from the Rochester Theological Seminary in
1896. He has held pastorates as follows: in Geneva,
Syracuse and Mumford, New York; and in Erie, Penn.,
where he is now pastor of the Calvary Baptist church.
On July 13, 1896, he was married to Lois Preston Wray,
of Rochester, and they have three children, born as
follows: Marion Harrison, July 12, 1897; Ruth, No-
vember 26, 1900; and Dorothy Wray, April 21, 1905.
Mr. Barbour has a singularly strong gift of organization.
In all of his pastorates, his systematic and wise handling
of the forces of the church has shown large and important
results. He is very strong among the young people. He
has a genuine gift of clear, concise and forceful utterance,
and preaches much without manuscript. He is an ardent


worker in the field of temperance, in that respect follow-
ing the example of his distinguished father.

(If, in the divine arrangement, that is permissible,
with what delight must the father of these five ministerial
sons have watched their careers!)


This brother was admitted to the bar in i 849, and then
located in Torrington, the village part of the town then
being called Wolcottville, where he remained till 1870,
when he removed to Hartford, and formed a partnership
with the older brother, Heman, which continued till the
death of the latter. He built up a large practice in Litch-
field County, and was so beloved in Torrington, that there
was general mourning of the people there when he left. At
the meeting of the bar in Hartford,- to take notice of Mr.
Barbour's death, the Hon. Frank L. Hungerford, a native
of Torrington, a member of the very prominent family of
John Hungerford, and in the practice of law there for a
time before he came to New Britain, spoke thus affection-
ately of Mr. Barbour: "I have known Judge Barbour
since my earliest childhood, as I was born in Torrington
where he had practiced law for many years, and during
my minority he was my guardian. He was the man of
the town, and prominent in church matters. Every one
looked up to him, and thought when they had his opinion
on any matter, they had all that could be gotten anywhere.
He was a man of great knowledge and ex-
cellent judgment." Judge McConville, who had read law
with him, and had been for years in his office, said of him:
" he never had an unkind word to say of any one. He
loved his fellow men, and delighted to help them. . . .
He died as he had lived, a patient, upright, Christian
gentleman." The Hon. John Hooker said of him: "He
was one of the best probate lawyers in the state."


Mr. Barbour held the offices of town clerk and judge
of probate much of the time he resided in Torrington.
He represented the town in the House in 1850 and 1865,
and the old Fifteenth Senatorial district in 1870. Prior
to that year it had been the practice to allow the lieutenant-
governor, as president of the senate, to appoint its com-
mittees. That year the democrats had the state officers
(Julius Hotchkiss being lieutenant-governor), and the
republicans had a small majority of the senators. Mr.
Barbour proposed that the senate should appoint its com-
mittees, as was the custom in the United States Senate,
and that practice was then adopted, and has been con-
tinued since In Connecticut. Mr. Barbour was made
chairman of the Judiciary Committee, which position he
filled most creditably.

While living In Torrington, Mr. Barbour was much
talked of for judge of the superior court, a position he
was exceptionally well qualified for, having the judicial
mind and temperament similar to that possessed by the
late Judge Dwight Loomis. While in Hartford, his firm
was attorney for the Connecticut Valley Railroad Com-
pany while it was securing Its rights of way and building
the road; and it was attorney for the Charter Oak Life
Insurance Company while it was having most important
matters litigated; and was attorney for the town of Hart-
ford during the time the question of the title to the Stone
Pits, a matter so important to Hartford, was being de-
termined by a suit in the superior court, the firm associating
with itself in the trial, the Hon. Charles E. Perkins, the
trial being by jury, and occupying many days, Hartford
winning In the sharp contest.

On November 25, 1851, Mr. Barbour was married
to Pamela J. Bartholomew, who was born December 28,
1827. There were born to them three children, all in
Torrington, John Humphrey, May 29, 1854; Lucy
Amelia, May 6, 1863; and Edward Willis, May 2, 1857.


The last named, a bright and very attractive child, died
May 28, 1 86 1, from which blow Mr. Barbour never re-
covered before his own death, which occurred September
21, 1 89 1. Mrs. Barbour, who had been his loving help-
mate, and who was greatly esteemed by a widely extended
circle of acquaintances, died August 27, 1899.


This son possessed a sweetness of disposition, and
gentleness of manners that made him beloved by all who
knew him. From very early childhood, he had an inquir-
ing mind, and soon became a very close student of general
literature and the sciences, about which he was a very
entertaining conversationalist. His preparation for college
was thorough; he Avas for a time in Amherst college, and
graduated from Trinity college in 1873, and from
Berkeley Divinity school in 1876. In 1899 he received
the degree of Doctor of Divinity from Trinity college.
He began his ministry in the Episcopal church in Park-
ville, Connecticut, and subsequently became a professor
in Berkeley Divinity school, which position he held till his

On May 7, 1878, Mr. Barbour was married to Annie
Gray, daughter of John S. Gray, of Hartford, and to them
were born four children, Ellen Gray, May 4, 1879;
Henry Gray, March 28, 1886; Paul Humphrey, Septem-
ber 13, 1888; and a child that died in infancy. On May
14, 1907, Ellen was married to Doctor Walter A. Glines,
now doing hospital work In Panama, and on May 7, 1908,
? daughter was born to them, baptismal name, Elizabeth.
Henry graduated from Trinity college, in class of 1906,
and is pursuing study for becoming a physician. Paul
is in Trinity college, class of 1909, and purposes to enter
the ministry. Mr. Barbour died April 29, 1900.



She possesses the characteristics of her father and
brother John, and, like them, is held in high esteem. To
native charm of manners is added much culture. A few
years since she established on Beacon street, Hartford,
and has since successfully carried on, a private school for
fitting girls for college.


On November 9, 1846, my sister Lucy was married
to Henry Pratt Lane, who was born in Hartland, Conn.,
February 29, 1820. They celebrated their golden wedding
on November 9, 1 896. There were born to them four chil-
dren, Albert Henry, March 5, 1851; Sylvester Barbour,
January 25, 1859; Willis Augustin, August 28, 1865;
and Wallace Stiles, March 17, 1867. Sylvester died June
8, 1864, Wallace, December 2, 1890, and Albert, Decem-
ber 30, 1899. The family first resided in Collirisville,
where Mr. Lane held a good position in Collins Company's
works; afterward for a time he owned and carried on the
farm opposite that of his wife's father. He died April
6, 1900, and his wife July 9, 1902. The afflictions of the
family, and the characteristics of Mrs. Lane are mentioned
in the funeral address, copied from The Times, to be read
in connection with this sketch.

[Hartford Times, July 12, 1902.]


Delivered at Funeral of His Sister, Mrs. Lucy
Barbour Lane, at Canton.

The funeral of Mrs. Lucy Barbour Lane was at-
tended at the Congregational church at Canton Center,
this afternoon. Mrs. Lane, who died in Talcottville on
Wednesday, was the widow of Henry P. Lane of Can-
ton, of which town she was a native and for many years
a resident. Her father, Henry Barbour, was a native and
lifelong resident of Canton, and was first cousin of the
grandfather of General Lucius A. Barbour of Hartford;
and her mother, Naomi Humphrey, was a native of
Burlington, a sister of the Rev. Heman Humphrey, D.D.,
second president of Amherst College, and first cousin
of John Brown. Two of Mrs. Lane's brothers, the late
Judges Heman H. and Henry S. Barbour, who died a
few years ago, were well known lawyers of Hartford, and
two of her sisters. Miss Julia E. Barbour and Mrs. Eliza
N. Sexton, invalids for many years, were well known to
many people in Hartford and vicinity. Mrs. Lane leaves
only one child, Willis A. Lane, with whom she resided
since the death of her husband, two years ago.

The Rev. Clarence H. Barber of Manchester, whose
father was first cousin to the deceased, preached a sermon
at the funeral this afternoon. At the close of the dis-
course. Judge Sylvester Barbour of Hartford, the only
living brother, made an address, speaking as follows:

Judge Barbour's Tribute to His Sister's Memory.
My friends: Before we go to the churchyard, to com-
plete these funeral rites, I wish to add to the minister's


words a few of my own, such as my extraordinary situation
suggests, and by way of reminiscence and just eulogy.

As you know, I alone remain of our large family.
Death first entered it in January, 1863, taking my beloved
mother, my father following six years later. In 1875,
when the youngest of the nine children was 40 years old,
my brother Heman, though the most robust of all, was
cut down In midlife, by reason of having for years added
to his exacting professional labors philanthropic work,
including that of rescuing the inebriate and reforming the
criminal. Afterward, one after another passed away, the
death of my brother Edward, which occurred seven years
ago, leaving this sister and myself alone remaining, each
of us wondering which of us would be the survivor. Since
December, 1898, when she was stricken with what seemed
to be a fatal sickness, she had been an invalid, patiently
and calmly awaiting her release, which came to her on
Wednesday morning, when, as If dropping into a peaceful
sleep, she passed away, at the age of 78 years and 63 days.

Added to my deep sense of sadness and loneliness there
comes over me a feeling of amazement, such as I would
expect to have were I the sole survivor of a shipwreck
at sea ; and it Is with no affectation that I say, this provi-
dence, exercised in behalf of the least deserving of our
family, is a mystery I cannot solve.

(That this sister ever manifested a most kindly dis-
position, free from every appearance of jealousies, envy,
or enmity of any sort toward any one, I think I may
truly affirm; and I believe that many, if not all of her
numerous acquaintances In this and other communities
where she lived and was known would say that she
was so generous, so unselfish, that she more than fulfilled
the Scriptural Injunction to love her neighbor as herself.
As one who knew her well has said of her: "Her
thoughts seemed never to be for herself, but always for
others." This remark contains no extravagant encomium.


To the sick, the hungry, the friendless she was ev'er a
helpful and devoted friend, and the epitaph at the tomb
of the self-sacrificing brother referred to would be most
appropriate at hers: "Good Samaritan: Inasmuch as
ye have done it unto one of the least of these, my brethren,
ye have done it unto me."

I would that my thoughts might follow these departed
kindred into the Beyond; but between it and me there is
a veil, impenetrable even to my faith. There remain to
me, however, most pleasant memories of them all, and if
their death was only the beginning of a new life, I am con-
fident it is well with them now, for they lived righteously,
and this world is the better for their having lived in it.)

It seems to me most fit that this sister should be
buried from this sacred spot. This house is the first church
edifice she ever saw; here, in infancy, she received baptism
from the devout and venerated Hallock, then pastor of
the church; here, in early childhood, she first heard the
gospel preached and received lasting impressions from
the solemnity of the service, ev^en if she did not under-
stand the words uttered; here she was a Sunday-school
scholar and teacher; here, in mature life, she took upon
herself Christian vow^s and spent many of her happiest
hours in worship; here, nearly fifty-six years ago, as a
preliminary to marriage, she was " published " from the
pulpit by her beloved pastor, Burt, the law of the state
then requiring proclamation of intended marriage, to be
made at least eight days before the nuptial ceremony, by
a notice read in meeting or posted on or near the church,
in public view; and from here were borne her husband,
three children, her parents, and three sisters to the hal-
lowed ground across the street, where, with them, she will
soon be at rest.

Respected neighbors and friends : Now, that the grave
is about to close over the last of our family whom you
will assist to bur>', I wish to bear testimony to your very


many kindnesses to us as a family, every one of whom,
if they could now join me in word, I am sure would say,
Accept our heartfelt thanks, and may the Good Lord
richly reward you. And I should be false to my feelings
if I did not also express thanks to our beloved kinsman,
who, for the second time in the funeral experience of our
family, has come here today, to speak to us words so
eminently fitting on such an occasion.


The following is copied from " Trumbull's " article in the
Connecticut supplement of the New York Herald, Sunday, July
20, 1902:

" Brother and Sister.

Mrs. Lucy Barbour Lane, who died recently at Canton, this
state, was a member of a very prominent Connecticut family.
Her father was a native of Canton, and her mother, Naomi
Humphrey, was a sister of Rev. Heman Humphrey, D.D., second
president of Amherst College. Two of Mrs. Lane's brothers,
Judges Heman H. and Henry S. Barbour, were lawyers in Hart-
ford. Another brother, Judge Sylvester Barbour, of. Hartford, is
the only living member of the family. At the funeral in Canton,
after the clergyman had delivered his sermon. Judge Barbour
addressed the assembled relatives and friends. It was an unusual
occurrence, but parts of his panegyric are worthy of preservation.
He said in part: вАФ " [Trvimbull copies so much of the address as
is included in the parenthesis.]

S. B.


This son of Henry P. and Lucy Barbour Lane, spent
his early life on the farm. On August 28, 1891, his 26th
birthday, he was married to Mary Leveria Stoneburner,
of Harbor Springs, Mich. She was born April 11, 1866.
There have been born to them two children, Cecille May,
February 21, 1893; and Dana Abrams, January 16,
1895; the former died January 10, 1894. Mr. Lane
for a time engaged in the grocery business, in Hartford.
Financial embarrassment coming upon him, he was obliged


to suspend, and, without attempting to arrange with his
creditors, so as to save something for himself, he made
an assignment in bankruptcy, and turned all his property
over for the benefit of his creditors. At the meeting of
the creditors for the choice of a trustee, there was such an
apparently honest showing by him of his affairs, that he
was advised by one of the creditors, who professed to
know something of the feeling of other creditors, to make
an offer of ten per cent., as a compromise; but, he said,
" No, my creditors are entitled to every dollar of my
estate, and they shall have it." His wife, who had been
a considerable financial loser in the mercantile venture,
joined with him in the declaration, with the result that the
creditors received 42 cents on the dollar, on the closing up
of the estate.

Afterward Mr. Lane clerked it for a while in Rockville,
then was connected with Talcott Brothers, in Talcottvllle,
for a time, then became superintendent of the Ellington
Alms House; and, upon such favorable report of his
reputation in that position as was made, he was applied to
to take the position he now occupies, that of superintendent
of the Town Home, in New Britain. Without his knowl-
edge, I copy from the Hartford Courant of June 4th,
from a report of an examination of "that institution, con-
ducted by the Mayor, the Charity Commissioners, and a
large delegation from the Common Council, these words:
" They found the institution conducted in admirable shape
by Supt. and Mrs. W. A. Lane. They were all much
pleased with the trip, and everything about the building

was neat and wholesome The visitors went all

through the home, and the inspection was a thorough one."
Mr. Lane is an honest man, and there is no danger of there
being any graft scandal connected with any official position
he may occupy.

Mr. Lane Is an Odd Fellow, a member of a lodge In



On November 8, 1848, she was married to Samuel
Douglas Garrett, of New Hartford, Conn, (the family
now spell the name with the addition of an e). He was
born February 8, 18 18. They first resided in Ohio, then
in Iowa, and afterward in Maryland. There were born
to them five children, Joseph Warren, January 28, 1850;
John Frank, January 30, 1852; Florilla Naomi, June 11,
1855; Eliza Jane, March 23, 1857; and Cora Juliaette,
June 10, 1859. The father was a great reader, an ad-
mirer of General Joseph Warren, for whom he named
his first-born child. He and his wife were both possessed of
most extraordinary equanimity. If there were ever a
spirit of resentment in their minds, it was not allowed to
have expression; and, as an honor to them, I prefer to
believe that the absence of that outward manifestation was
due in part to self-repression. Their self-control was so
complete, I doubt if their children can recall a sharp, cross
word of reproof ever received from either parent. They
governed their children largely by their quiet, uniformly
passionless example. How beautifully does such parental
conduct contrast with what is sometimes witnessed, where
children are scolded and nagged, and thereby made very
unhappy at the time of the administration of reproof, and
permanently soured in disposition. Mr, Garrette died in
Maryland August 26, 1881, as the result of a severe com-
pound fracture of his leg, resulting in amputation and
blood-poisoning. His wife died in Ansonia, Conn., Feb-
ruary 20, 1892.


Joseph inherits his parents' peaceful traits. He is as-
sociated in business with the Bill Brothers Company,
of Hartford, expressmen. On April 19, 1877, he was
married to Virginia Redhead, of Maryland, born Decem-


ber 25, 1846, and they have one child, Edward Douglas,
who was born August 24, 1880, and who was married to
Susan Walker Cowles, of Hartford, on October 4, 1905.
They reside in Hartford, and have no children.


He has had a successful mercantile business career;
is a member of the firm of Miner, Read and Garrette,
carrying on a large business In New Haven. On October
15, 1879, he was married to Harriet Harris, of South
Egremont, Mass. She was born December 14, 1856; and
there have been born to them two children, Elizabeth,
October 6, 1880; and Ruth, February 28, 1890. Eliza-
beth was married to Frederick B. Ackley, of East Hamp-
ton, Conn., on January 14, 1903. He resides in Hartford,
and is connected in business with his father-in-law.


On April 5, 1875, she was married to Arthur Mun-
son; they reside at Sound Beach, Conn., and have three
children, Mary Estelle, born January 27, 1876; Rodney
Earle, born March 2, 1878; and Myra Ophelia, born
March 5, 1880.


On February 4, 1878, she was married to Isaac W.
Robinson, and the family now reside in Worcester, Mass.
There have been born to them four children, Grace
Florilla, May i, 1879; Samuel Franklin, September 16,
1881; Ralph, July 23, 1884; and Cora Belle, August
24, 1886. On May 30, 1903, Grace was married to
Harry W. Twigg. On March 30, 1900, Samuel was
married to Daisey Antoinette French, and they have two
children, Ernest Elmer, born January 12, 1901; and
Pluma IvOuise, born March 27, 1902.



On May 28, 1892, she was married to Lafayette
Madison Gilligan, of Monson, Mass. They reside in
Milford, Conn., and have no children.


She was tall and comely in figure, and inherited the
Humphrey look and energy. She had great business tact
and ability. In early womanhood she followed school
teaching till she became disabled for it, by reason of
chronic spinal complaint; and then, after a few years,
became bedridden, and so continued for twenty-six years,
until her death. In her intense suffering she always ex-
hibited great fortitude and Christian resignation, and,
in that way, was a living sermon to all who knew her.
She was never married.


He worked on the farm in boyhood and youth, except
while at school. After receiving the benefit of the district
and select schools of the town, he was for a time in the
Literary institution at Suffield, and finished his preparatory
education in Williston Seminary. He began the study of
law in Poughkeepsie law school, and completed it in the
office of his brother, Heman, in Hartford, as stated on
page 9.

On November 27, i860, he was married to Frances
Amelia, daughter of John Francis and Pamelia J. (Tul-
lar) Collin, of Hillsdale, New York. There were born
to them six children, as follows: Lizzie Laurane, Septem-
ber 21, 1861; Collin Henry, July 6, 1863; Edward
Humphrey, May 19, 1867; Amy Louise, September 25,
1869; John Quincy, January 31, 1874; and Frederic
Ernest, February 25, 1876; the five last named, in
Ansonia, and the first named, in Hillsdale, New York.



Four of these children have died, Edward, February 13,
1869; John, August 15, 1874; Frederic, July 19, 1876;
and Lizzie, October i, 1886. This daughter was pos-
sessed of a sweet disposition, and had endeared herself
to her many acquaintances; her death, which followed
a sad and mysterious invalidism that had continued for a
year or two, occurred at her grandfather's home in Hills-
dale, in the room in which she was born. Collin was
named for his grandfathers taking the surname of one
and the Christian name of the other. He is in mercantile
business in Hartford. On January 25, 1893, he was
married to Lena Louise Bestor, of Hartford, and they

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